Bottom line. I think You know deep down You have a problem. You can admit it or not. But You have one. None Of Us are trying to be mean to You. We will always tell You the truth as best we can. Some here have been where You have. I have run into women just like Your Wife. Each loved their Husband's from the bottom of their hearts. But had certain needs.
My Wife Is Changing .......
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I do understand and thanks for your explanation. I do know I have a problem and can't fuck good with my back in this shape. I don't even mind her using the toys she has on herself. She's getting a lot more sexual and dominant the last several months. I guess I need to ask her about what she wants and needs sexually. I just want her to be happy.Will2112001 said:
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Forgive me, I don't mean to be a dick, but couldn't you just lay on your back and have her ride you? Or is that still painful? I know back pains can be a real muddafucka, but there's only so many times you can turn your wife away before it becomes a (potential) problem. Only so long that new toys can hold her over. Its not just about penetration, she'll eventually crave the other aspects of sexual attention; hands roaming her body, hot breath on her neck, etc., all while she's getting pumped for all its worth.
I, myself, claim to be no expert, but I highly recommend you communicate the changes you've noticed and work from there to form solutions to the problems.
Hope all goes well.
I, myself, claim to be no expert, but I highly recommend you communicate the changes you've noticed and work from there to form solutions to the problems.
Hope all goes well.
thanks Setag and yes I do lay down and she rides me. That is the way we have sex but after about 10 mins it does start to hurt a little. She can cum that way but usually gets up and strattles my face and tells me to lick her juices. She has really been dominate about that and making me do it more often in leu of fucking.Setag said:Forgive me, I don't mean to be a dick, but couldn't you just lay on your back and have her ride you? Or is that still painful? I know back pains can be a real muddafucka, but there's only so many times you can turn your wife away before it becomes a (potential) problem. Only so long that new toys can hold her over. Its not just about penetration, she'll eventually crave the other aspects of sexual attention; hands roaming her body, hot breath on her neck, etc., all while she's getting pumped for all its worth.
I, myself, claim to be no expert, but I highly recommend you communicate the changes you've noticed and work from there to form solutions to the problems.
Hope all goes well.
I do understand about the toys good for so long, she doesn't use the old ones we have played with and I found those new big ones in the bottom of her drawer hid in the back.
I know a woman of her age has needs so I will talk to her soon about our current situation.
I just dont want to make her do something she isn't thinking of.
Chad54 said:
This is where You two have to talk. You have a loving relationship. I'm sure. But needs are needs. There is sex. And then there is Love. They are not always one and the same. Don't think for one minute your wife is looking for your replacement. Unless Your treating Your wife differently. If your the same loving man emotionally. She is happy to have You. and will stick with You.
Well I had to talk with the wife today. Things went well, I asked her about how she feels in the relationship and how she is sexually. I'm pleased to say that she is in love with me but did say that being sexually satisfied was low. She went on to tell me that recently she is horny 23 hours of the day and can't stop thinking about some form of sex. She also admitted to looking at porn on the Internet to get off. She told me about some hot fantasy videos she watched and some mmf videos along with some gangbang videos. I was quite aroused hearing her talk about what she likes. So I went on to tell her if there was anything sexually she wants to do I didn't want her to hold back. I told her I was open on doing anything. I could see her eyes sparkling with excitement as we talked. We went on to talk about things and also we made the cliché "keyword" for un approval of something. We thought it would also be nice to have a "get out of jail" day with something one of us could do to surprise the other. I told her to let her inhibitions run wild and that she wouldn't do something I wouldn't like or be mad at. She seems very happy and relaxed after our long conversation.
I am very happy also that we had our little sitdown talk.
On your mark, get set.......GO ! =p
I am very happy also that we had our little sitdown talk.
On your mark, get set.......GO ! =p
well this am. she was pretty talkative and bright eyed about NYE and us going out. she said I have to go with her tonight and not sit home since this is the last day of the year. yippeee! I'd rather sit home and watch the Chic-fil-a College Bowl Game that's on tonight. but the power of the pussy seems to be winning on my nightly plans.
Something exciting to report to you all. We went out on NYE to a nice restaurant. It had a big bar attached to it and it was pretty packed with people. I did notice a couple guys eyeing her up when we walked in but I didn't say anything to her. She didn't notice them staring at her but I did. She went to the bathroom once while we were having dinner and I noticed a big guy immediately take off to the bathroom vestibule area. I could see the doors where I was sitting and 4-5 mins went by and she came out from the entry area and he said something to her. She looked back and gave him a smile while she was leaving the vestibule. It was probably something flirty I'm sure. I continued to eat as she sat back at our table and smiled at her when she sat down.
I asked if the guy said anything to her and she told me that he said she looks very sexy and was she here with someone. She told me she smiled and said maybe and winked at him. We were finishing dinner and I noticed the guy was with a few friends and went to the bar. I asked her if she wanted to get some drinks and stay longer. We finished and went to the bar area and right as we walked in I noticed the guy turn and look at her. We sat and had a drink and I was still noticing him looking in her direction. I told her that the guy has been staring at her since we got there and he has the hots for you. She giggled and said he was big & cute. I told her it wouldn't hurt to flirt with him a little bit and the be a tease to get her kicks. She wanted to go to the bathroom and got up which he quickly put down his drink and headed her way.
He got to her before she went in the bathroom and they started to chat a little. They must've chatted for about 6 minutes and both were laughing and smiling. After she got back I asked her what they talked about. She said they just did some chitchat about the night and what was going on and he asked her if she was with someone again. She said she has a husband but he was cool with her flirting. She told me said he said "oh yeah, only flirting?" to which she replied "it depends" and smiled. He wound up giving her his phone number and told her if she wanted to flirt some more one night give him a call. He also said I could watch him flirt with his wife if I wanted and winked to her. The big stud did have some confidence I give him credit for that.
After she got back I paid the tab and we left, we talked about it on the way home and she said he was definitely hot. I told her if he was something she wanted to pursue to think about it and let's talk. So I'm going to leave this up to her and let her come back to me with what she intends to do. I told her she didn't need to go with the first guy she met and if she needed some time or didn't want to rush it I understood.
So we will see how thing goes over the next week or two.
I asked if the guy said anything to her and she told me that he said she looks very sexy and was she here with someone. She told me she smiled and said maybe and winked at him. We were finishing dinner and I noticed the guy was with a few friends and went to the bar. I asked her if she wanted to get some drinks and stay longer. We finished and went to the bar area and right as we walked in I noticed the guy turn and look at her. We sat and had a drink and I was still noticing him looking in her direction. I told her that the guy has been staring at her since we got there and he has the hots for you. She giggled and said he was big & cute. I told her it wouldn't hurt to flirt with him a little bit and the be a tease to get her kicks. She wanted to go to the bathroom and got up which he quickly put down his drink and headed her way.
He got to her before she went in the bathroom and they started to chat a little. They must've chatted for about 6 minutes and both were laughing and smiling. After she got back I asked her what they talked about. She said they just did some chitchat about the night and what was going on and he asked her if she was with someone again. She said she has a husband but he was cool with her flirting. She told me said he said "oh yeah, only flirting?" to which she replied "it depends" and smiled. He wound up giving her his phone number and told her if she wanted to flirt some more one night give him a call. He also said I could watch him flirt with his wife if I wanted and winked to her. The big stud did have some confidence I give him credit for that.
After she got back I paid the tab and we left, we talked about it on the way home and she said he was definitely hot. I told her if he was something she wanted to pursue to think about it and let's talk. So I'm going to leave this up to her and let her come back to me with what she intends to do. I told her she didn't need to go with the first guy she met and if she needed some time or didn't want to rush it I understood.
So we will see how thing goes over the next week or two.
Chad54 said:
Your wife probably did notice the men who were looking at her. Women have significantly broader peripheral vision than men.
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Good move, keeping your wife updated on her admirer...
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Which would create another opportunity to flirt with him...
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He was alert, and took the bait...
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Your wife's urge to use the bathroom was not too strong, evidently...
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All good. Your wife has a potential lover on the line, and is playing him skillfully...
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Keep up your good work. It sounds like you will soon graduate to being your wife's self-acknowledged cuckold, and your wife, more than likely, will soon begin acknowledging to you her greatly-increased sexual satisfaction.
Your thread suggests your wife's new-years-eve-prospect is unlikely to have been the first "other man" she's met, so to speak, so she may, of course, have made you her cuckold already, although she hasn't bluntly said so (yet)...
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Sounds like progress.
well its been 5 days since we went to dinner on NYE and she met the guy in the bar. I havent said much of anything to her about it because I didn't want to push the subject on her. Well this a.m. we were talking down the Christmas decorations and she said to me "do you think I should call that guy?".
I froze and said, I dont know...DUH!
I froze and said, I dont know...DUH!
Chad my friend: What are you doing to yourself? This back issue, I have the same thing going on (unless you broke your back), you should be working on your 'core strength' - that is, strengthen your back through exercise - no, not bending your elbow at the corner bar, but really doing all you can to get back into shape. The more your gut hangs out and the weaker your back muscles become the more pain you'll be in.
Now as for this forum: I don't blame any of these guys for the advice they are giving you - I'd like to cuckold you too. But if your wife loves you, and as you say, she doesn't mess around on you now why do you want her to start? What gain is there in it for you? NOW ON THE OTHER HAND: If you fantasize and get your self off by imagining her fuck other guys, then that's another game. The downside to that though is that she just may not play the game the way you imagine: She may just REALLY FUCK OFF with some other guy!
Play it smart - get yourself back into HER game AND: Tell her that it is your plan to do so - she may already be starting to write you off.
Now as for this forum: I don't blame any of these guys for the advice they are giving you - I'd like to cuckold you too. But if your wife loves you, and as you say, she doesn't mess around on you now why do you want her to start? What gain is there in it for you? NOW ON THE OTHER HAND: If you fantasize and get your self off by imagining her fuck other guys, then that's another game. The downside to that though is that she just may not play the game the way you imagine: She may just REALLY FUCK OFF with some other guy!
Play it smart - get yourself back into HER game AND: Tell her that it is your plan to do so - she may already be starting to write you off.
Well to be honest and not to get into too much detail but my back is fucked. How it happened and where is paying me for it. I also do work at home. But I'm not going to be able to be a gym rat. I am an average sized guy and don't have a fat belly. The thing is I know a woman of her age has needs and I haven't been meeting them in bed. It's obvious she loves me for my personality and other stuff and not for the sex life. And now with her opening up to me and telling me she thinks about sex 23 hours a day I can tell she has needs. Also finding her stash of new rubber cocks it's pretty obvious.feelinsumgood said:
So my question back to you....... Should I be naive and live with blinders on and have her run around on me or give in to her and be part of it and give her some options ?
Chad54 said:
Never live were You force Her to lie. Be honest with Her. Have Her be honest with you. You think Your the only guy for whatever reason. Can't fulfill his wife. Other's have health problems also. Some set aside a day a month or a week. That's Her's
You know she has these needs. Its got nothing to do with love. But pure sex relief. Why hold her back from getting those needs taken care of. has she said No to You about how your needs when it comes to sex now? I know is its not what You where taught how a husband acts with his wife. What I would say to you is this. Your not in a normal situation. Life threw You a curve ball. You still have a loving wife. You are going to have to make adjustments. You'll have to keep an open mind. I have a feeling You may find You have far more loving wife that returns to You. And a happier home. Plus an impoved sex life Yourself. But You have to keep an open mind. Plus both of You have to talk. And never stop talking. But that where it starts
The lying will destroy your marriage. Don't force Her to do that. My Humble thoughts.
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Chad54 said:
That happens. My impression is, a large percentage of the population over 50, and an increasingly large percentage 60 and above, have problems with chronic lower back pain... and a whole lot of them, I suspect, are people who did not injure their backs in an identifiable severe accident. I would guess it's among the reasons 65 used to be the standard retirement age. If you're relatively young and injured your back badly, that makes it worse.
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That's a plus.
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You might consider ordering a copy of:
McGill, Stuart, 2007, Low Back Disorders: Evidence-Based Prevention and Rehabilitation (2nd edition), published by Human Kinetics, web site www.HumanKinetics.com (312 pp. hardcover).
The description of the author inside the back cover reads: "Stuart McGill, Ph.D., is a professor at the University of Waterloo at Waterloo, Ontario, Canada, and a world-renowned lecturer and expert in spine function, injury prevention, and rehabilitation. McGill has written more than 200 scientific publications on the topics of lumbar function, low back injury mechanisms, investigation of tissue loading rehabilitation programs, and the formulation of work-related injury avoidance strategies. ....."
[Disclaimer: I have no relationship with McGill and gain nothing, financially or otherwise, from recommending his book.]
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You have that right...
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As you understand, obviously, that's a problem.
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So, evidently your marriage has a strong basis. That, of course, is good.
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It sounds like you and your wife are communicating well, and are not inhibited from talking with each other about sex. This, and the underlying strength of your marriage, suggests a "cuckold husband / hotwife" form of marriage, in which you and she agree it is among your wife's privileges and prerogatives to date, seduce, and have sex with whomever she pleases, while you agree to remain faithful to her, may be a good form of marriage for you, given your unfortunate back injury, and may even strengthen your marriage by eliminating any need to pretend your wife's unmet sexual needs do not exist.
From this point of view, it sounds like she and you were heading in the right direction with her flirting in the bar on New Years Eve, and with your subsequent conversation on the way home.
It would not be too late to re-open your conversation with your wife about whether she should call the man who gave her his number in the bar, mention you were caught short without a good reply when she asked you about that, and suggest she go ahead and do so.
