Hi Ms. Unsurewife,
Thanks for posting. As pointed out by your husband in his post, you appear to be on the right track. From his point of view, your positive responses, however tentative, have immensely turned him on and it sounds like you're turning yourself on, as well.
unsurewife said:
Thanks for the advice [gw3n], that sheds a whole new light on things from my perspective.
Cool...
unsurewife said:
You're right [gw3n], if I never take any new leaps of faith I'll never know what's out there for me.
Ayup...
unsurewife said:
I didn't even know this is an option for married couples or a way to spice things up.
Ayup. If you want to do it and your husband is encouraging you to do it, you can do it.
unsurewife said:
I'm wondering what happens if I try it (for him) and he is more into it than I am! What then?
An oft-quoted saying among men whose wives finally, after much resistance and introspection, adopt the view that it's their prerogative to date and fuck other men while their husbands must remain faithful as their cuckolds (and begin acting accordingly), is: "It's hard to get them to start, but much harder to get them to stop."
unsurewife said:
Do I keep going to make him happy, or do I stop to make me happy? I'm trying not to be such a prude...
I'd say don't worry about it. If you begin dating and fucking other men, it will be your show. If you decide you don't like it and want to stop, you can stop. That should be entirely up to you, and your husband should agree to that in advance.
If, on the other hand, you decide you like it and want to continue, you can do so. If your husband decides he doesn't like being your cuckold after all, well... it will be awkward, at best, for him to insist you stop dating and fucking other men, because he will have been the one who motivated you to begin doing that.
This is a way of saying, the dynamics of your marriage will change. To a much greater extent, you will be in the drivers seat. If this gives you pause, note that your husband (according to his post) is finding himself more turned on by you as your self-confidence increases.
—Custer