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Proceeding Towards Reality Advice...

Discussion in 'Cuckold Talk' started by smpenisguy, Oct 11, 2017.

  1. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Hi cuckold community.

    I have been a long time follower of this site (and others) and have been slowly (over the last 2+ years) developing a cuckold relationship with my wife's full support. We basically live a cuckold relationship - minus an actual Bull. We role play regularly, she wears an anklet, recently we started sleeping naked, I am regularly denied - which also sexually frustrates her, etc...Basically, doing stuff I have read on this site and others. She knows that I am no longer excited/turned on by penetrative sex and desire more non-penetrative play - I have explained to her that is what the Bull is for. :)

    About 3 months ago, I decided to search for a potential Bull. After an extensive search I finally found an Alpha male that fits our needs. My wife knows and gave me permission to exchange pics. She is impressed by him.

    My job takes me out of town often and the other day after a terrific role play session, which she always orgasms pretty hard, I told her I would like for us to meet the potential Bull for just drinks. She said she "doesn't know and is concerned about what they would talk about". Further, she would be doing it for me.

    Here is my question for cucks/Hotwives...is my wife just being coy and really wants to meet the Bull or is she just not ready and I should advoid the meeting if it is just for me.

    Thanks for your thoughts.
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  2. Lovestruckcuck

    Lovestruckcuck Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Just being coy as she is unsure if your feelings will be hurt if she appears to eager
  3. Hulk6666

    Hulk6666 New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Any time I see this expression "she would be doing it for me" i run as far away as possible.

    If she is not willing to admit her desires then she is just not ready. She may well be willing to do it for herself, but until she faces and embraces this reality you will just be blamed for the entire mess that occurs. Further even if it turns out well, you will always be BLAMED for this lifestyle.

    She needs to put on some big girl panties
  4. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    That is what I am leaning towards.

    During role play, I have been working the potential Bull into our role play - telling her to how much I want to see Kevin (the Bull's name) rub on her breast and kiss down her stomach and slowly penetrate her making me her cuckold. This kind of talk makes her orgasm very strong - stronger than me actually in her! I tend to bring her to orgasm with only my tongue and fingers; I have read that potential cucks should stay out of the wifey. :) It leaves the wife kind of needing a little more - and it does work, she has told me that using my fingers is defintely not the same.

    Thanks for your thoughts.
  5. Custer Laststand

    Custer Laststand SLUTWIVES VIP! Beloved Member :)

    Your wife sounds promising. I'd say go ahead and set up a meeting for drinks with her prospective bull.

    If she responds badly to him, you can always tell him something reasonably polite ("Well.... it was nice to have met you, Kevin...."), and depart. (Have an agreed-on sign for her to indicate she doesn't like him, like maybe she touches your leg with her foot.)

    If your wife's response is more positive, but she doesn't feel quite ready, you can make arrangements to meet him again later.... maybe for dinner. And, the reality of actually meeting a potential lover would fuel your and your wife's cuckold / cuckoldress games in bed.
  6. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    I agree - and is inline with what I was thinking and shared with my wife. We have been at this "stage" for quite some time. It appears there are two camps of lifetyle advisors, 1. Wait for her to scream YES lets do this and 2. Those that say if I don't take subtle "yes" signs and nudge forward it will never happen.

    The subtle "yes" signs I am talking about are: wearing an anklet, giving me the ok to share a risqué pic of her with Kevin, during sex being very receptive to me using his name, denying me (knowing this also sexually frustrates her), etc...Since we have started moving towards this type of relationship, we have been very open with our communication - sharing my sexual desires with her has improved our communication along with our sex life. She knows she is in control and is not a push over.

    When I told her that I would like for us to meet with Kevin just for drinks, she didn't say, "no". She just said the above...and when we were talking yesterday, she playfully said, "she is going to need some strong drinks".

    While she is not on the roof with a mega phone screaming yes, I do think she is open to meeting with Kevin.
  7. ktpy

    ktpy Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    I don't think she is being coy, from a Hot Wife's perspective, I would say she doesn't full understand what is in store for her and that unknown is making her apprehensive about committing to such a lifestyle. In other words she is not fully ready yet, but you could ease her into the situation by getting her to mingle with the potential bull in a non sexual environment, where she is does not have to think about the conclusion. You guys could go in for group activities such as games or a movie or so.. rather than leaving her alone with the bull. As her response that she is not sure what they would talk about is a genuine concern, as she does not know more about the bull and once she gets to know about him, I am sure she will open up in no time.

    It would also suggest that it would be better if she gets a upper hand in choosing the bull rather than the cuckold choose it for her. Mating with Alpha should always remain the female's choice.
    All the Best! ...With regards
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  8. GBG1rl

    GBG1rl Verified Slut VERIFIED! Beloved Member :)

    Ready or not here I cum..

    From my experience you are always apprehensive, especially the first few times. You never know how things will turn out. You either enjoy the experience or you don't.
    I was always worried that my hubby would get jealous and couldn't live with me once I'd fucked someone else. As it happens, he loves it, and so do I.
    I don't think he's a cuck as such, he just loves it when I cum. Most times he'll join in and the more of a wanton Slut that I am turns him on even more.
    The first step is always the hardest. Talk about your reservations. Talk about your limits and how you will handle things if one or the other isn't happy.
    The sex part is easy, we all love sex. The hardest part is sharing your feelings about it.
    Good luck xxx
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  9. Custer Laststand

    Custer Laststand SLUTWIVES VIP! Beloved Member :)

    Yes, that's what it sounds like to me. I'd say move forward with it. As I mentioned, a preliminary meeting won't commit you and your wife to anything. Kevin will almost certainly consider it reasonable if you make it clear to him, in advance, that the meeting is to get a better feel for whether he and your wife have chemistry.
  10. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Thanks, Sam.

    I agree, part of her hesitation may come from not fully understanding what is in store for her - role play always leads to sex, so this may be her expectation. I have set the stage that we are only going for drinks, sex is her choice not mine. Kevin also knows this and is ok that sex may not happen on the first couple of meets.

    I will work with Kevin to find a place to meet that has a relaxed atmosphere. I would like a place with dancing to promote a reason for them to be alone together...if she dances with him even if they don't have sex, I know it means she is comfortable with him.
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  11. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Thanks Custer.

    I have told Kevin not to expect sex on the first couple of meets. He knows and understands my wife's apprehension...he has told me, we are not his first, first time couple. Although, he did say she would be the first wife he meet and did not fuck on the first date!
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  12. Enigma632

    Enigma632 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Because of her possible reticence I suggest somewhere such as a coffee shop rather than a bar so that she can appraise him without the influence of alcohol, remember it needs to be up to her whether she hits it off with him well enough to allow him to have sex with her
  13. smpenisguy

    smpenisguy New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Thanks, Enigma.

    I will ask her if she would feel more comfortable meeting initiallly at a coffee shop during the day versus a bar/club at night. And to keep assuring her sex is not the goal on this first meet.