Peak - all good questions. I was going to post about our fun earlier tonight but instead, I'll spend my last few minutes answering your post as it's something that's become forefront here between us.
I guess it was luck, but then again, I always felt that Sue understood her own limits. I think she scared herself more than she scared me but perhaps, best we don't tempt fate too many times.
So actually, over the past few weeks, as I began to mention someone like Frank as someone who could be a potential partner, she's come to warm up to this idea. And, what I'm saying is that - probably not surprising to some here - we are both of the same feeling that perhaps, going another route with regards to cuckoldry or "naughty wives" as Sue knows it.
She, and I agree, isn't looking for this regular type of thing that she's had. That's why she said the Frank idea might be good because it could be less scheduled and more spontaneous. I suggested, and she agreed, that perhaps - at least at first - she not let him know that I know what's going on.
I was a bit disappointed at some points when we were talking about all of this and I guess it showed so, again, if you are in a relationship where you can talk about stuff - she asked me if I wasn't happy that she was warming to the idea of Frank (and let me clarify here - it's always Frank or someone like him - so it's more the idea than the person). I told her that wasn't it at all and then I let it out that I was going to miss some of the "demands" that he (that's as close as I get to mentioning Don, I refer to him as 'he' loosely) used to make.
Some of this was earlier today and this afternoon once our daughter was out of the house, some of this came up again as we were having a glass of wine and relaxing after raking up the leaves. The wine loosened her up and she sidled up to me on the couch and we kissed and such and she started to tease me a bit. And it was not much later that she came out and said that she didn't need "him" to make demands on her to have her make them on me. And then she said "you know, I did sort of like making you wait sometimes....".
So - back to your question Peak. For me personally, I did like the experience during that week when I knew she was with Don and not me. I mean that week still feels so strong to me that even now it gives me the most erotic thrill thinking about it. And she knows that it turned me on, and she's okay with that. But she's made it clear that she doesn't want that sort of relationship next time - and that she's also made clear. There will be a next time. Tomorrow when I post more, I'll continue, but she's admitted that she does miss having sex with someone else. She was so emotional and serious when she said that to me as if it was going to bother me. That's what led to what I'd already mentioned about her making the demands.
So, the idea of someone local that we felt okay about seems to be the direction we're both thinking might be a good one to try, it might give us what we want and dare say I see a bit of a sexually-demanding side coming out of Sue! What a total turn on to see this happening - her wanting it, her wanting it again.
Anyway, till tomorrow.