Concerned,
Concerned said:
Custer, thank you for your reply. I have not given in completely to Lisa being in charge in all ways, and I'm not sure that is the way I want to go with our relationship. I think I'm OK with Lisa making the decisions, but I want to have my opinion heard or at least requested before she decides.
That's reasonable, of course...
Concerned said:
She just decided I was to wear panties for a full week, and did not even ask what I thought. I felt that the ultimatum was a bit unreasonable.
Suppose your wife had said: "Darling, would you like to wear panties for a week, just to see if they feel natural now that you're a cuckold?" And you had said: "No thank you, ma'am, I'd rather not." And she had said: "Yes sweetheart, you will wear panties for me, starting tomorrow. And I understand your need for input, but because I had to consider your objection you will wear them for me every day for at least two weeks."
That would have been OK...?
Concerned said:
The website (blog) that you recommended is FANTASTIC! I will send Lisa a link.
Cool...
Concerned said:
Your input is very much appreciated, Custer. I may not always do as you suggest, but I appreciate your comments. —Concerned
Hey... you're under no obligation to do or even consider doing anything I or any other member of this forum might suggest. But if you find some comments helpful, that's good enough... it's what the forum is for.
Regarding your reply to Vladdy:
Concerned said:
Vladdy, .... Now it is time for me to go and ask [my wife] to be allowed to wear silk panties all week. I DO like the bare feel, I must admit. —Concerned
That's better. Now you're making progress...
Concerned said:
I went to Lisa and asked her if I could PLEASE wear her silk panties. She was in a playful mood and said, "Yes, absolutely, your small cock will have no problem fitting into my panties, AND you may have the honor of licking my pussy. I want to be ready for Tony tonight."
Very good. You pleased your wife by politely asking her permission to do what she knew you wanted to do, and she rewarded you by making her first direct request (perhaps?) for you to pleasure her in your role as her cuntsucker. You might now keep in mind the following Q and A.
Q: What is a man's proper position in marriage?
A: On his knees with his face between his wife's thighs, his lips kissing her pussy, and his tongue giving her cunnilingus.
Q: If a married woman is not entirely satisfied with her husband in his proper position, are there other proper positions?
A: Yes. On his knees with his face between his wife's cheeks, his lips kissing her asshole, and his tongue giving her analingus.
Concerned said:
It was absolutely great licking a bare, smooth pussy! Those of you who have not done that ought to try it! Of course it would need to be your wife's bare pussy, right?
Depends on whether one is married, I suppose...
Concerned said:
I licked her pussy as instructed, and paid attention to her clit. She did moan, but did not have an orgasm. She also said I need to learn better techniques.
Oh, oh... you have a problem Houston (or wherever you live). Servicing your wife by sucking her cunt erotically, thus bringing her to orgasm whenever she desires that from you, is among your most important duties as her cuckold. I definitely suggest googling "how to perform cunninlingus." You will mind much online instructional material on this important subject. Even (perhaps I should say of course) Wikipedia has an article on it. See:
Cunnilingus - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Note this article includes the comment: "Face-sitting (AKA queening): the female sits on or above her partner's face. In this position the female has more control over her body movements and can guide her partner or auto-stimulate against her partner's face.". For more on this, see:
Queening your man:
The Fine Art of Queening
Note also the Wikipedia article mentions: "Cunnilingus may be accompanied by the insertion of finger(s) or a sex toy into the vagina, which allows for simultaneous stimulation of the woman's g-spot, and/or into her anus."
Since your wife finds large cocks satisfying, you and she might consider purchasing a relatively large, realistic, vibrating dildo (to be selected by her), which you could then use (with heavy lubrication) to "fuck her" while simultaneously sucking her cunt and licking her clitoris.
For many possible cunninlingus positions (your wife may, of course, find some more appealing than others), see:
Cunnilingus Sex Positions
Concerned said:
I did ask if we could talk a bit about what is happening. She agreed. I said I understand that she is now in charge of all aspects of our relationship, but I did not think that she wanted to be married to a complete wimp. Lisa agreed. (whew!).
This is reasonable. There are many men in hierarchical authority-based organizations (the military, police and fire departments, for instance) who take orders from other men on a daily basis but are not thought of by anyone as "wimps."
Concerned said:
I said I understand that she will make the final decisions, but I would like to have the opportunity to voice my thoughts. Lisa said she would ask my opinions on many things, but not necessarily everything. For example, she said she would decide, without consulting with me, whom she would fuck. "Fair enough" was my reply.
"Fair enough" was a good reply, since this too is reasonable. Only your wife will be able to decide whether she feels sufficient chemistry with any given potential lover to know whether, in reality, she wants to fuck him.
Concerned said:
I felt like this was real progress, and was encouraged.
I agree.
Concerned said:
The panties do feel good on my smooth skin. —Concerned
Very good. I remember not too long ago you were worried (concerned, one might say) about whether your wife would expect you to wear panties. Now she does, and you are, so this too sounds like progress.
—Custer
That might make her want to keep seeing other gentleman.