How Do I Get My Conservative Christian Wife to Hot-wife?
First and for most I often get asked as a part of the above question, can I still be a Christian and have a open marriage. The answer is simple yet complicated but must be answered before title question. The short answer is YES. The word Christian has two common meanings in the church world. The Bible, (which is the book I will use through out this article) says, “Acts 11:26 And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch.” The word Christian appears two other times in the Bible.
Acts 26:28 Then Agrippa said unto Paul, Almost thou persuadest me to be a Christian.
1 Pet 4:16 Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf.
The usage of the word means, “a follower of Christ,” “or to be Christ like.” Now it is very important which way you interrupt the word, for if it means to be like Christ then one would assume the answer would have to be NO. I disagree, the reason is really easy if we look a little farther in the Bible and understand that some simple yet difficult marriage rules were given.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Wives submit (to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another, to give over or yield to the power or authority of another, to yield oneself to the power or authority of another, to defer to another's judgment, opinion, decision, etc.) your self to your husband. I have said it often and hold to this with all my heart and mind that for a real hotwifing relationship to work the couple has to be very much in love. There is a great deal of difference between loving someone and being in love. That would be a whole subject in it self and I won’t try to go into that in detail now but will give a brief example. Love means to care, the degree of caring is the state of how much you love something or someone. To be in love is to be bound to them from the heart and there may not even be a rational reason for why you feel as you do. Some would say it is being a soul mate, in any case as I will point out later to be in love is to be one with the person you are married too. Wives are told to love their husbands as well. (Titus 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,) I would take this one step deeper for this conversation, love is trust. With out trust, which is knowing, this kind of life cannot work and will not work where both people are happy and fulfilled.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Here is why I said I would disagree and say the answer is yes. How does Christ love the church? He loves the church in the same way a man is to love his wife and wife is to love her husband. How do I know this, because he says the church is his bride and he is the bridegroom coming again some day to do what, to be married to the church? I find his love to be very interesting, because if you do a bit of study you will find his love is unconditional. Christ chooses you to be a part of his bride he says while you were yet in your mother’s womb. You can not earn his love, buy his love, take his love, he gives it freely to those that accept it. This is very important in answering the question of above because it is what being love is about. If a wife and husband are truly one in heart then they are in love and love gives room to forgiveness when a rule is broken, it gives forgiveness when a partner has cheated (did not have permission to fuck someone else)it is there if they have a small cock or she has to have a breast removed. Being in love is not about getting fat or being skinny, if he goes bald or not, it is a bond that reaches past things and cannot be earned, or bought, stolen but can only be given freely by the giver.
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
