Lisa from Germany / Question

[LisaNightfly]

Hi community, I am Lisa, 22 years old, skinny, not bad looking I guess, and generally interested in exploring sexuality more.

But the main reason I joined here is the following: I am in a relationship with a 30 year old guy. We’ve been together for two years now, and he started to mention recently - and since then he mentioned it again and again with more emphasis - that he would find it incredibly hot if I did him the favour to give BJs to other men when he is watching. In his fantasy he could offer a BJ by me to other men upon his choice… could be when his friends are over for watching a football match, or spontaneously if he feels like it with a stranger. He also mentioned that he would want me to always swallow them. One of the main things would turn him on is if I had no voice in this, but only he would be selecting the men.

I have to say I was really confused when he started mentioning this, and since he mentioned it again and again and expressed that he really wants me to do that for him, I started thinking about it.

Wanted to ask some more experienced people here for their opinion please.

(If this thread doesn’t belong here but to a different section, then please feel free to move it.)

 

[happytwobeecucked]

Sounds good if you are in agreement - first steps to fully cuckolding him - again, if you are happy to do that. Are you happy to swallow or would you rather spit, at least to begin with?

 

[LisaNightfly]

Sounds good if you are in agreement - first steps to fully cuckolding him - again, if you are happy to do that. Are you happy to swallow or would you rather spit, at least to begin with?

I am a bit insecure if this wouldn’t make his friends look down on me or talk about me behind my back. What do you think?

Regarding cuckolding: Is that really what it is? I always thought cuckolding would be me being the dominant part, having sex with others. It seems he wants to dominante though, being able to tell me anytime and any place that I have to suck a man of his choice off…

Regarding swallowing: Not sure either. I mean somehow swallowing is an intimate thing, as the man‘s sperm stays inside me (being digested)… I don’t have a problem with the taste, but would you think it’s too intimate to swallow from his friends or strangers?

 

[happytwobeecucked]

You are right: it is really the lady’s choices that counts. You should never have sexual activity with people you are unhappy with.
Cuckoldry is about consent. You have to be happy and your man has to know his place in the arrangement which is deferring to the stronger male.
You shouldn’t be considered by his friends as anything other than hot and they are unlikely to look down in you if happily saying what you are happy with. These men should be supportive of you and your man should be supportive likewise. Take your time before you agree to anything and think things through.
If you are happy to swallow then do know that sperm is actually full of protein and not necessarily an intimate thing. It is comparable to a man performing cunnilingus on a woman in my book. Not necessarily too intimate; a lovely, natural process - but that is my preference. I get it that not all men want to eat pussy anymore than some women may not enjoy a BJ. How about having men cum on your tits to start with, if you are comfortable with that?

 

[PervertedPolishCouple]

Hi community, I am Lisa, 22 years old, skinny, not bad looking I guess, and generally interested in exploring sexuality more.

But the main reason I joined here is the following: I am in a relationship with a 30 year old guy. We’ve been together for two years now, and he started to mention recently - and since then he mentioned it again and again with more emphasis - that he would find it incredibly hot if I did him the favour to give BJs to other men when he is watching. In his fantasy he could offer a BJ by me to other men upon his choice… could be when his friends are over for watching a football match, or spontaneously if he feels like it with a stranger. He also mentioned that he would want me to always swallow them. One of the main things would turn him on is if I had no voice in this, but only he would be selecting the men.

I have to say I was really confused when he started mentioning this, and since he mentioned it again and again and expressed that he really wants me to do that for him, I started thinking about it.

Wanted to ask some more experienced people here for their opinion please.

(If this thread doesn’t belong here but to a different section, then please feel free to move it.)

I have the same thing to my wife,as well I'd love to if she would give a BJ without asking me just telling me every single detail after .

 

[LisaNightfly]

You are right: it is really the lady’s choices that counts. You should never have sexual activity with people you are unhappy with.
Cuckoldry is about consent. You have to be happy and your man has to know his place in the arrangement which is deferring to the stronger male.
You shouldn’t be considered by his friends as anything other than hot and they are unlikely to look down in you if happily saying what you are happy with. These men should be supportive of you and your man should be supportive likewise. Take your time before you agree to anything and think things through.
If you are happy to swallow then do know that sperm is actually full of protein and not necessarily an intimate thing. It is comparable to a man performing cunnilingus on a woman in my book. Not necessarily too intimate; a lovely, natural process - but that is my preference. I get it that not all men want to eat pussy anymore than some women may not enjoy a BJ. How about having men cum on your tits to start with, if you are comfortable with that?

I really don’t think he is into cuckolding but somehow into the opposite. I asked him again what turns him on with this and he said two things:

1. He finds me really attractive (and it seems his buddies find me hot as well). He feels girls like me have the “wrong attitude”, as we grow up always being the ones being able to choose the men we “please”. He wants me to getting used to please also other men, but only those he chooses.

2. Swallowing: He finds swallowing to be a sign of submission and he wants me to become submissive.

Also, I asked him how often/frequently he would want me to give a bj to other men. He answered that this would only be his choice, but sometimes nobody for a could have days, sometimes 5-8 buddies of him in one day.

He also mentioned it could for example happen that when we go to watch a movie in the cinema, and there is a single guy or two guys sitting next to us, that he will offer a bj to them by me there…

Do you think he still loves me when he wants me to suck off other men so often?

 

[LisaNightfly]

I have the same thing to my wife,as well I'd love to if she would give a BJ without asking me just telling me every single detail after .

But this is that she chooses the men then!?

 

[LisaNightfly]

This is me by the way

 

[PervertedPolishCouple]

But this is that she chooses the men then!?

Yes exactly

 

[2wheel]

Having sex with another can be life altering, for you both, especially when done with friends and acquaintances.

A few comments:
It's only sex
Always preserve the primary relationship
sometime the sizzle is better than the steak
she who has the pussy is in charge

Good luck whatever your decision - keep us posted

 

[fk2546]

If any of your boyfriends' buddies that you give a BJ to, are dominant alfa personalities, I am sure they will want to get into your panties. Just something you will have to deal with, one way or another.

 

[happytwobeecucked]

I really don’t think he is into cuckolding but somehow into the opposite. I asked him again what turns him on with this and he said two things:

1. He finds me really attractive (and it seems his buddies find me hot as well). He feels girls like me have the “wrong attitude”, as we grow up always being the ones being able to choose the men we “please”. He wants me to getting used to please also other men, but only those he chooses.

2. Swallowing: He finds swallowing to be a sign of submission and he wants me to become submissive.

Also, I asked him how often/frequently he would want me to give a bj to other men. He answered that this would only be his choice, but sometimes nobody for a could have days, sometimes 5-8 buddies of him in one day.

He also mentioned it could for example happen that when we go to watch a movie in the cinema, and there is a single guy or two guys sitting next to us, that he will offer a bj to them by me there…

Do you think he still loves me when he wants me to suck off other men so often?

You are delightful to see - Thankyou for sharing your gorgeous picture with us.

A sub/dom relationship really isn’t the same thing as cuckoldry. How do you feel about participating in an arrangement like that?
Having sexual contact with other men is always something consensual. 2wheel is right: as you are your pussy owner then you are in charge.
Also, cuckoldry is a strand of a healthy and successful relationship. It should benefit the relationship and make it stronger. A bdsm relationship is different given the transactions that go with it.

The question over him loving you is a commonly asked one by women new to the game. Personally speaking, I love my partner very much and our relationship only goes from strength to strength when she finds herself men that she wants to have sex with. I love her to show me the control she has over men with her pussy, and that she uses her sexuality to seek out then fuck men of her choosing.
Have you two been in your relationship for long, may I ask?

 

[LisaNightfly]

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You are delightful to see - Thankyou for sharing your gorgeous picture with us.

A sub/dom relationship really isn’t the same thing as cuckoldry. How do you feel about participating in an arrangement like that?
Having sexual contact with other men is always something consensual. 2wheel is right: as you are your pussy owner then you are in charge.
Also, cuckoldry is a strand of a healthy and successful relationship. It should benefit the relationship and make it stronger. A bdsm relationship is different given the transactions that go with it.

The question over him loving you is a commonly asked one by women new to the game. Personally speaking, I love my partner very much and our relationship only goes from strength to strength when she finds herself men that she wants to have sex with. I love her to show me the control she has over men with her pussy, and that she uses her sexuality to seek out then fuck men of her choosing.
Have you two been in your relationship for long, may I ask?

I’ve known him for 4 years, been together for about 2 years now.

 

[LisaNightfly]

I guess there are more men here than women: From a man’s viewpoint: Why would he want me to swallow everyone I suck, even strangers?

 

[happytwobeecucked]

I guess there are more men here than women: From a man’s viewpoint: Why would he want me to swallow everyone I suck, even strangers?

2 years together means that you know each other well.
Getting you to swallow is his fetish, and from what you say is getting off on it, but if you find swallowing strangers’ cum uncomfortable then you should seriously

 

[happytwobeecucked]

#say no. Perhaps a discussion around a spitting arrangement for strangers might be useful? Could be a compromise..

 

[happytwobeecucked]

Thinking about it: I would love my partner to swallow the cum of her bulls, but her choice to spit is something I support as I want her to really enjoy sucking cocks. I would never insist upon it.

 

[LisaNightfly]

Thinking about it: I would love my partner to swallow the cum of her bulls, but her choice to spit is something I support as I want her to really enjoy sucking cocks. I would never insist upon it.

Thank you, your view helps me a lot!
So do you think I should start swallowing like he asked me to and then have a discussion with him if I feel this isn’t for me?

Oh and could you maybe also share with me why me swallowing cum from other men is somehow hot for him!?

 

[LisaNightfly]

Maybe a stupid question, but how will his friends see me then? Won’t they lose respect? I mean if they get used to coming over to our place and probably always getting offered a BJ?

 

[happytwobeecucked]

Maybe a stupid question, but how will his friends see me then? Won’t they lose respect? I mean if they get used to coming over to our place and probably always getting offered a BJ?

I think that this needs to come from you: only you know if you are comfortable with swallowing cum. Maybe you already do that for him? If that is not a bother to you, then perhaps you might feel ok with doing that for his friends? However, I fully take your point about being thought of as being the mouth ‘on tap’ to be used whenever the friends just turn up. If you enjoy doing BJs then fine. It is not fine if you are uncomfortable with it at best, or disgusted with it at the very worst. Your consideration is definitely not a stupid question around this. Remember, what we said previously about owning your pussy equally applies to your mouth. I don’t think that I would want my partner to offer my mouth to all of her friends’ pussies when they came round. The oral sex arrangement must be of benefit to both the giver and the receiver. This is why I said that you should really take some time to think before agreeing to anything, or not!

I think that your partner may somehow enjoy the control element of getting you to swallow for these guys to start with, which shows him in a good light with his friends - that may then extend to him telling you to offer your pussy to them, again just to show what a generous friend he is. Please do take care and especially some time to think what it is that you want from this, if anything. That is very important.