Hi everybody,
we are a happily married coulple in our late fourties and we are living our lifestyle for 10 years. We have 2 children, a son with 25 and a daughter with 21.
During the time our children were living together with us in our house we avoided every action in our home. We did not want to be confronted by our children with questions because we both know from our own experience that for young people it is hard to understand the topics of this lifestyle. So no one of our children noticed anything about our lifestyle.
Then the children moved away even if they are both singles, but with boy-/girlfriend. Now we saw no need to exclude our home from our activities. But now sometimes it happend that our daughter came unanounced for a chat with us in the morning and a strange car was parked in the driveway. We had a hard night so we slept longer and our daughter could not find anyone in the livingroom or kitchen.
We left the bedroon seperated and met in the kitchen. Our daughter had a surprised look on her face but did not mention anything.
2 month later there was a similar situation but this time I slept in the living room on the coach. My daughter had an amused look in her face but once again did not mention anything even when she saw my wife's lover comming into the kitchen together with her mother. 2 days later my daughter phoned my wife and confronted her with a lot of questions. She was not prepared for this kind of questions and in need for good arguments. So the discussion went totally wrong and our daughter was disappointed due to the lack of trust.
In the evening we discussed our situation but could not find a good solution.
Now my question:
Were you ever confronted with a similar situation?
What did you tell your children?
fred
we are a happily married coulple in our late fourties and we are living our lifestyle for 10 years. We have 2 children, a son with 25 and a daughter with 21.
During the time our children were living together with us in our house we avoided every action in our home. We did not want to be confronted by our children with questions because we both know from our own experience that for young people it is hard to understand the topics of this lifestyle. So no one of our children noticed anything about our lifestyle.
Then the children moved away even if they are both singles, but with boy-/girlfriend. Now we saw no need to exclude our home from our activities. But now sometimes it happend that our daughter came unanounced for a chat with us in the morning and a strange car was parked in the driveway. We had a hard night so we slept longer and our daughter could not find anyone in the livingroom or kitchen.
We left the bedroon seperated and met in the kitchen. Our daughter had a surprised look on her face but did not mention anything.
2 month later there was a similar situation but this time I slept in the living room on the coach. My daughter had an amused look in her face but once again did not mention anything even when she saw my wife's lover comming into the kitchen together with her mother. 2 days later my daughter phoned my wife and confronted her with a lot of questions. She was not prepared for this kind of questions and in need for good arguments. So the discussion went totally wrong and our daughter was disappointed due to the lack of trust.
In the evening we discussed our situation but could not find a good solution.
Now my question:
Were you ever confronted with a similar situation?
What did you tell your children?
fred