Hi everyone. I know it's been a while. I'm sorry to disappear, and I really appreciate all the comments of support, both public and private. Thanks. Min-Ju and I are doing well, very busy.
Min-Ju is out at a "anti-Xmas" dance party with a (male) friend for the night, so I thought this was a good time to finally post. I've been meaning to for a while, but the thought it always so daunting. In fairness, I should say that I'm not sure yet whether I will start posting again; the long posts especially got to be too much to keep up with, but we'll see.
You're probably wondering about Min-Ju. She cooled things with Caleb a couple weeks after my last post, and while she's seen him a few times since, she's not "seen" him. Things ended... ok, but a little messy. As was inevitable. He had started seeing some other woman, too, and while she'd made it clear from the start things with them were casual only and she knew she shouldn't feel hurt, she kind of was. I think what bothered her wasn't jealousy or any real feeling for him but just that she felt rejected, and while I would never say it to her this way, her Asianness kicked in and framed the whole thing as her not being good enough or sexy enough. Which is crazy! Though I understand it. And I'll admit to some irrational emotions including being outraged on her behalf that he'd choose someone else. Anyway, that made for a muted week or so as she was feeling sad and trying hard not to seem sad and trying very hard (which I appreciated) not to let it seem like she was hung up on him. Still, part of me knows she was, at least a little. How could she not be. But we both worked through it, and things seem ok.
We're still playing, mainly as fantasy and bedroom talk, and we've been having some fantastic sex together. She still sure knows how to push my buttons in bed and get me to lose control and shoot far too soon when she wants to. And she loves having that power.
And our adventures have made a permanent mark on our relationship. She still has her permission to play. She and I both know I can't take that back now, and neither of us wants to. I've always been focused on taking care of her, but that's amplified. I've definitely noticed that I take on more of the household work now, and decisions about where we go out to eat are almost always hers. I'm hopelessly devoted to her more than ever, and she knows it.
So yeah, that's more or less where things stand.