MacNfries said:Usually I like to think I have something to add to a person's thoughts, here, but I'll admit, darkmatter' ... you've covered it well. I guess your months of observing fits the old saying well ...
“A wise old owl sat on an oak; The more he saw the less he spoke; The less he spoke the more he heard; Why aren't we like that wise old bird?”
Good post, darkmatter ... my thoughts exactly. Mac
darkmatter159 said:Spectacularly bad idea, unhealthy and unethical on many levels.
I've been a member here since the summer and this is my first post. I love the site and a great many people here are extremely intelligent, normal folks who are living a very exciting dimension of their intimate life with their partner.
Then there are those who seem to take this too far to the extent that it is unhealthy and potentially destructive to relationships and families. I am a liberal and open minded person, and I do believe to each their own. But I also Eli's d there is a right and a wrong here, and that's when this link starts to affect or involve the kids (or potential kids) in a family.
It goes without saying that having a child is a commitment to a lifelong responsibility to them. Every child deserves to grow up truly loved, supported and nurtured by his/her parents. Whatever arguments may be made to the contrary, I don't believe this is possible in a family unit where the child is the product of a kink or where mom genuinely takes pleasure in the belittling or degradation of dad.
If you find yourself prioritizing a kink over a genuinely loving and mutually supportive relationship where you desire each other and want to reproduce with each other, I think you need to ask yourself some hard questions about sex addiction and seek some counseling for some significant self-image and emotional issues.
But if nothing else, bring a child into the world because you want to do so with the person you love and realize that you are both committing to parenthood together. Don't make a life raising a child a tool in a sex kink. It's plain wrong and unhealthy on many levels. Keep perspective here.
darkmatter159 said:I think that's out of touch with reality. Children learn and develop from parents who love and support them, not using them as tools in a sex kink.
kate123 said:I think it was about diversifying the genes for a few children in one family, independently of the things that parents can teach.
Katie2006 said:My husband and I have been trying for a child for a longtime (+5 years) he has had some tests and his sperm test shows he has a low sperm count. I am desperate to have a child and am totally attracted to black guys can not see what is wrong in getting pregnant with a black guy. My husband is slowly starting to agree that this would be acceptable for us both. He knows how much I want a child I would not get pregnant until he agrees that I should do so, if he does I know I want it to be with a black man.
Katie2006 said:My husband and I have been trying for a child for a longtime (+5 years) he has had some tests and his sperm test shows he has a low sperm count. I am desperate to have a child and am totally attracted to black guys can not see what is wrong in getting pregnant with a black guy. My husband is slowly starting to agree that this would be acceptable for us both. He knows how much I want a child I would not get pregnant until he agrees that I should do so, if he does I know I want it to be with a black man.