A question for the cuckolds

[Dom_Valac]

As a Dom and Bull, personally I can tell you that the idea of having a married or attached woman, and the idea of being in a Dominant role over another man both excite me. For me the idea of possessing another man's woman, placing him in the more submissive role, and stepping into a Dominant role over him. That is the aspect that I enjoy the most. It is also all the more exciting and fulfilling when the cuckolded man accepts his role, and takes pleasure from becoming more submissive. That is my personal experince.

My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

 

[duke9555]

it's all of these things ........foremost i enjoy her
being with another guy / hurting me / cheating
i enjoy that her bf/fb/bull can do her when and where
he wants and i can do nothing to stop him ........i can
get off on any and all domination games he may wanna
run on me ...........ideally it's a smooth trio ..........if not
i'm hopeful at least they're content happy & satisfied

 

[Dom_Valac]

Thanks

Thanks duke.

Yes the most idea situation is for all three to enjoy the arrangement, and for the dynamic to work as smoothly as possible

 

[bibottomhubby2bbwslut]

Most the guys that come to this forum just want to watch their wives fuck other men. In the reality of things, most would not be able to handle a wife who had a bull lover, humiliated him in public, and denied him attention ... and that's more of what cuckolding is all about. Its all fun and games until you realize you don't have control of the situation.

I have watched my wife getting fucked by other men and I have enjoyed it a lot. I think what brought me to this site and to my interest in "cuckolding" is that through watching my wife with other men in a swinging environment, I began to get more in touch with my submissive desires. In response to Dom_Valac's question, I think what most excites me is the idea of playing out a fantasy scenario where my beautiful wife, although still primarily in love with me, completely and totally submits to a more aggressive dominant male, and I take a submissive role to both of them. I love to fantasize about this scenario, and my wife seems to enjoy it too when we discuss it as a fantasy. I'm hoping we can explore making it a reality, but as Mac points out, I also wouldn't want to run the risk of losing control. I know there are some people who make the choice to live this lifestyle all the time, and others who live it but claim to not have any choice in the matter. There is a line between our private fantasy lives and our public "reality". I like the idea of playing out a cuckold scenario for a night, or even a long weekend, if we were to find the right guy who we could trust to play the bull role. If the situation got out of control to a certain point where we were beyond the realm of fantasy, I don't think I could stand there and take it. I can't really see my wife allowing it to get to that point either, but if she were to fall in love with the other guy to the point where she really didn't want me anymore, I'd have to remove myself from that situation. It's fun as a fantasy, but Mac is right, I could not handle it as a reality.

 

[jelous_of_wifes_bf]

My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

Personally, I would have to say that I enjoy being submissive and humiliated most of all, although only in a private setting. I don't know why, I guess it's just how I am but I find it the most exciting part of the whole cuckold thing. The idea of my wife being dominated by the other man does not excite me much, and she’s not the sort who could be dominated, our favorite role playing scenarios are more like her deciding that I am not capable of fulfilling her sexual needs and so finds a man who can. Naturally this man chooses to make his superiority quite apparent. She also enjoys watching bisexual behavior between men, which is exciting for me in a domination/humiliation sense. Consent between all three of us is of course very important.

I think I would find ‘being dominant’ a bit boring to be honest, but each to their own.

 

[NYJOE]

.................................My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

Excellent question.
Personally, I'm mainly excited by the fact that I freelly give my wife to another man to be his slut.

I am not into any sort of heavy or cruel humiliation. I do however enjoy the humliation of knowing that my wife is getting fucked by another man and he knows how much it turns me on.

I actually like her lovers to be basically friendly to me but, at the same time, he makes it clear to me that my wife is his slut.

 

[Son of John]

Since I am a "wife-sharer" and not the classic cuck, my perspective is a bit different.

I love sharing my wife's pussy with other men, and love to be there to watch them fuck her. I am not humiliated or submissive and am a full participant in what is happening. I guess you could call me an "enabler".

 

[Cucktail]

Since I am a "wife-sharer" and not the classic cuck, my perspective is a bit different.

I love sharing my wife's pussy with other men, and love to be there to watch them fuck her. I am not humiliated or submissive and am a full participant in what is happening. I guess you could call me an "enabler".

Agree with this.

A cuck does not necessarily have to be placed in a submissive role. Sure that is one aspect of it, but there are many aspects to explore in a cuckolding relationship and all you have to do is to find which best suits you and then enjoy it ...

My husband likes to direct. He has said on more than one occasion that when he steps away from the fun and takes a moment to watch, that he feels as if he is in control of his own personal porno. On many occasions he will direct us into different poses/scenes and take pictures. He also will join in, and he is free to be with other women when we are at parties / with couples ...in those two specific examples (and others) I do not feel he is taking a submissive role at all.

I enjoy it way more when he is participating / enjoying himself just as much as me ....

 

[mimi27406]

This is an interesting question:

"My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes"

I think some of the answer to this may be influenced from the position you were first cuckolded and how it came about. Men who knowingly allow themselves to be cuckolded are almost always submissive and those who have a sissy feminine side often are at least bi-sexual. Many sought strong, dominant women, often like mothers who dominated their childhood. These women do not ask, they tell, their husbands and he accepts his place or is out of her life. This type of cuckold, sissy cocksucker, wants to be dominated, by her and her lover. He accepts female superiorty and the real man his mistress chooses, and wishes to serve them as directed. He hopes the bull will allow him to suck and clean both the mistress and lover. His cock, often small an ineffective, gets hard thinking of and seeing his mistress with others. He accepts physical and verbal punishment as his due for being a sissy cocksucker.

This is just one type, there are many types of cuckolds and many are more just wife swappers.

 

[pleaser011]

I have been cuckolded but never with my knowledge. I do like the cuckold scenarios that involve dominant women and I see myself doing everything that is demanded of me. However, I see the power coming from the woman and would expect the man to be primarily under her influence and direction. this doesn't mean that I wouldn't enjoy the humiliation aspect of ****** bi and a tad bit of swagger in the lover. That would just seem natural. I just love sexually powerful and aware women, that's all.

 

[NYJOE]

I'm actally surprised that there are many others like me who are not into heavy humiliation and simply get off on thier wives getting fucked by other men.

As I said I'm submissive and like to be dominated only in the contex that my wife's lover has sway over her and her pussy but, this in only when she allows him to.

In short, "roll playing" plays a large part and any domination is just roll playing for the most part.

 

[sptbj2]

My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

The idea that my wife is with another man - and that she is doing it because she finds it pleasurable. I am submissive to my wife in the bedroom, but not in other areas of our lives - we have an equal partnership. My submissiveness stems from my desire to be a good lover, to give her all she needs to express her sexuality in any way she chooses.

I love it when she is dominant and expresses her desires freely. She has not yet taken me up on my offer of her taking another lover, male or female. She does tease me about it often as she knows how horny I get when she does. She also loves to remind me of all the opportunities she has had in the past and turned down.

If she were to take a male lover, I know that would increase my submissiveness to her. She would be showing me that I was not needed for her sexual gratification and that I better damn well appreciate her love and devotion to me.

If she wanted me to be submissive to her lover, I would certainly try it as long as she remained the one with the final say so. I think it would be an interesting exploration of my submissive tendencies. That said, neither of us are into humiliation or denial, so the submission could not be heavy in either.

As for her being submissive to a bull, I don't see it happening. Sure she will submit sexually and is eager to please her lover, but she will always demand love, respect and tenderness. She is way more dominant than submissive.

 

[kevinsslave]

Very interesting question, but, I'm not sure that I was able to ever truly distinguish the 2 feelings. I would have to say, for me, the true pleasure was being submissive both to my women and especially the boyfriend/lover. The idea that another man could take my woman before my very eyes and order me to get him a drink, lick his ass, kiss her feet, etc., aroused me to no end. Likewise, there is absolutely no feeling in the world like sucking the cock of the man who is fucking your wife/lover. That any man could have that much power over me and my woman, well, that was such a turn on. Of course, my fantasies have always been to be submissive, so it's no surprise that this all turned me on so much.

Truthfully, I really enjoyed being submissive to a man and it was the ultimate turn on. Washing his clothes, sucking his cock, buying him things, feeling his hand slap my ass or face, whatever...knowing that he controlled me and my woman.

Yet, there is something incredibly arousing about watching your woman suck cock and being pleased sexually as her lover takes her. Watching her legs spread open, in the air, as another man buries his cock into her. It was like a private porn movie.

So, at the end of the day, both were a huge turn on. What I find interesting is that when I finally decided that I'd had enough of the lifestyle, it was the easiest thing in the world for me to reassume control of my life. It made me realize that the "Bull" (or your woman) really isn't all powerful, they only have the power that you give them. Once you want the fantasy to end, it ends....

 

[Dom_Valac]

Thank you for all the replies

I want to take everyone for their input. I understand and fully appreciate that for most of us here, this is a fantasy, an aspect of our lives that most people want to keep private. For my experience, I always respected the couples wishes to keep it private, or to go that extra step further and bring it out of the bed room. Like I said before the comfortable dynamic has to be there with all three in the relationship, and while I enjoy Domination, cuckolding and humiliation, for me to truly enjoy it, all others in the relationship have to enjoy it as well. For a Dom and/or Bull who is in the lifestyle for any length of time, I believe that it adds a whole new level of enjoyment when the wife embraces her sexuality and sensual nature, and the cuckold comes to realize and embrace his submissive nature. I fully agree with mimi in that men who have a submissive, sometimes bi-sexual or sissy, nature do choose women more Dominating, usually more of a motherly figure.

I enjoy the lifestyle, and I enjoy discourse and discussion, which is why I came here. I am simply asking the question to give us a topic to discuss, think about, and really see points of view different from our own.

The dictator statement is very interesting, because when it comes to politics I am very independent and libertarian in my views. Perhaps some of it stems from my Dominant nature. I believe everyone is entitled to their own choices, even if they choose to submit to their wives and more Dominant men. Just keep that idea in mind, everyone's here for their own reasons, and their own choices, their choices are just as valid as everyone else.

 

[slave 45]

cuckold emasculation

When i was first cuckolded i was very turned on by the humiliation and jealousy i felt as my wife took a lover.The thought of being dominated by her lover had not even occured to me.For the first couple of months my wife always went out to meet him and it was only when she started bringing him home that my submission to him began.I was very reluctant at first but as he started spending more time in our house my wife encouraged him to boss me around and humiliate me.This eventually led to him whipping me and walking me around on a collar and leash.The answer to your question is that i found all aspects of it a huge turn on.My wife sleeping in the marital bed with her lover and his domination over me.

 

[sojourner.q]

As a Dom and Bull, personally I can tell you that the idea of having a married or attached woman, and the idea of being in a Dominant role over another man both excite me. For me the idea of possessing another man's woman, placing him in the more submissive role, and stepping into a Dominant role over him. That is the aspect that I enjoy the most. It is also all the more exciting and fulfilling when the cuckolded man accepts his role, and takes pleasure from becoming more submissive. That is my personal experince.

My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

Thanks for such an intelligent and thought provoking question!

For me (us) this is just a fantasy so far. However, as I have grown older I have come to think that we should all experience as much as possible to explore our unique sexual personalities. For me that includes a strong dose of bisexuality. Further, we are both somewhat on the submissive end of the spectrum which makes it hard for me to fully satisfy her need to be dominated (and the same goes for me when she tries to play the dominant).

Our desire is somewhat different than what has become the "classic cuckold" scenario. I am a firm believer that a true Dom need not of necessity be a cruel sadist. In fact, the research I have done indicates that serious Dom/sub relationships are built upon a mutual trust and respect. In short, a true Dom gains more pleasure from someone freely giving themselves to him(her) than to force someone. One is a willing servant...the other is a slave. Sadly, many would be Masters are not intelligent enough to dominate and subdue someone with their wits and thus are ****** to resort to brutish bullying as a substitute. Also, for us all of this would be "roles" that were played out to enhance the sexual experience of all involved. In reality, I think it is very hard for anyone to live such roles 24/7.

Thus, to your question; For me, it is the willing submission and the humiliation that comes from that submission that is the greatest turn-on. And of course, the humiliation is really just a reflection of our societal norms regarding how a man should respond when another man takes "his woman" and when he is willing to service that same man sexually as a homosexual...it's the "taboo" of it all that generates the humiliation. For her, it is the submission to be "taken and used"...to be "made" to do things that nice girls just don't do without being ******.

One additional thought; I suppose I am also a bit different than most of the "classic cucks" in that I could also play the role of the Dominant man given the right set of circumstances. This is entirely dependent upon the dynamics of the personalities involved, of course, and would most likely be with a very submissive younger man and his woman.

 

[greymaster]

I am a firm believer that a true Dom need not of necessity be a cruel sadist. In fact, the research I have done indicates that serious Dom/sub relationships are built upon a mutual trust and respect.

Well said. A 'cruel sadist' would tend to damage his (or her) toys far too easily and then need to go out and find new ones.

My 'Dom' status is as valid and real as your 'Cuck' one but that doesn't stop me seeing how I would like relationships to grow and develop. Long-term and Safe would be my direction of choice.

 

[4julie]

Being a long-term Cuckold means you evolve

As a Dom and Bull, personally I can tell you that the idea of having a married or attached woman, and the idea of being in a Dominant role over another man both excite me. For me the idea of possessing another man's woman, placing him in the more submissive role, and stepping into a Dominant role over him. That is the aspect that I enjoy the most. It is also all the more exciting and fulfilling when the cuckolded man accepts his role, and takes pleasure from becoming more submissive. That is my personal experince.

My question for the cuckolds is from your point of view, which excites you more; the idea that your woman is with another man, or the submissive role you are placed in, and the Dominant role your woman and her lover assumes. Please be honest in your answers, and explain your own personal feelings to the best your ability. Any ladies or other Doms or Bulls who which to chime in, by all means please do.

When I was first cuckolded I was ******* for 5 years and when I learned I was I hated it and the guys who were pleasuring my wife. Gradually as time passed I learned to accept my failings as a husband and grudingly allowed my wife to find the sexual satisfaction with other men that I couldn't give her. Gradually meeting with the men who were fucking my wife I became aroused in their company and I found myself jerking off to the thoughts of them making my wife cum. As a process of sexual therapy we ended up with my wife having an open marriage where she had use of our house and bedroom to fuck other men and I had to vacate the house while she did them. However one night a neigbor observed me jerking off in our yard as I watched my wife getting fucked in our bedroom. On telling my wife she decided rather than the neigbors seeing me jerk off I was welcome to watch her being fucked. It was then I began to interact with her lovers. I saw how some of them enjoyed eyeballing me as they came in her, others also enjoyed seeing me lick and suck their fresh hot cum out of her cunt as they kissed and cuddled with her. Then it eveolved to me sucking her lovers' cocks etc.
Over time I've gone from being a very unwilling cuckold to a husband who will do anything my wife or her lovers require of me to add to their sexual pleasure.

I fully accept I'm inferior as a man and incapable of giving my wife the orgasms and sexual satisfaction they can.That the men my wife chooses as lovers are sexually superior to me and as such I pay them the homage due and see it as befitting to suck and fluff them as required.

 

[UKResearcher]

An unusual perspective.

I am interested to know to what extent a lover’s dominant status is based entirely on the fact that he had the good fortune to be gifted with extra inches of flesh between his legs, because I can see that the subservient cuckold might easily be superior in intelligence, character and status.

After Fifteen years of marriage and three children I realised that I could not give my wife orgasms with the same regularity as before and, after some thought, I realised that she needed someone with better equipment to give her the pleasure she deserved, so I gave her permission to stray. This was purely a logical, loving decision with no hope or even thought of gaining vicarious pleasure from her possible activities. My only condition was that I should never know about anything she did and that my life would remain unaffected. That three wise monkeys pose was because I thought I knew which type of men she might gravitate towards and these were exactly the same cocky bastards that I most hated to imagine getting pleasure from her body.

During the next twenty-five years I know that she had two daytime affairs, ten years apart and both lasting for between one and three years. In both cases I only discovered after it ended, I never divulged what I knew and happily, both of the lovers were men that I would not have objected to. I was enjoying an extremely happy life and gave little thought to what I knew, except the knowledge that I need feel no guilt that her loyalty to me was depriving her of the pleasure that she deserved.

For forty-five years I had a wonderful sex life until eight years ago when a combination of age and diabetes caused me to develop ED. It is only from then that I started to have issues and regrets about the past and that explains my presence on this forum.

To answer the question posed by the thread, if my life had gone differently I now believe that I would have enjoyed watching my wife being pleasured by someone else but even though almost all men are taller and more powerful than me, I’m damned if I would have been submissive to any one of them.

 

[Devilspy]

Well, first cock size for the most part does not matter to a woman, now the fullness inside does to a point. And if you would speak to your wife in these terms and show her your willing to share her, she might say yes.