My wife is petite 29 yr old white girl. She is 34c, 120 lbs, brunette with hazel eyes. She also has a strong sense of self respect (which I have always admired) and is pretty independent. She won’t take crap from anyone including me. However,
We are working with a real estate guy Hakeem. He is strong, assertive, educated and tall black man. We got his reference through a close friend and are happy with him.
Recently, we went to a house showing and my wife repeated a mistake in front of him. She again made a judgement on the property just based on the appliances in the kitchen which can be easily replaced. Here was the actual conversation
I was taking my shoes off and she and Hakeem walked ahead of me. I was a few seconds behind them
She: (while walking inside the house to the kitchen) I don’t like this house, everything is white and outdated including all the appliances.
As soon as she said that, Hakeem literally chided her in a strong deep voice
Hakeem: I have told you so many times that this is the stupidest way to judge any house. Can you stop making judgment on minor things such as appliances or wall color? Am I clear about that?
Wow, I was taken back. If I had said the same thing in that tone to her, she wouldn’t have spoken with me for weeks. I was sure she won’t take this BS from Hakeem as well. But how wrong I was. She replied back by saying this
“I am sorry, it won’t happen again”
Later I told her that I was equally offended to which she said she wasn’t as Hakeem was right
This brought a big question for me. Do girls give more respect to strong alpha men, more than to an average men like me? Do they change their personality for them? She was clearly a “sub” in his presence, which is very different when she is with me. Is this a primal thing? What if he was an average white man?
We are working with a real estate guy Hakeem. He is strong, assertive, educated and tall black man. We got his reference through a close friend and are happy with him.
Recently, we went to a house showing and my wife repeated a mistake in front of him. She again made a judgement on the property just based on the appliances in the kitchen which can be easily replaced. Here was the actual conversation
I was taking my shoes off and she and Hakeem walked ahead of me. I was a few seconds behind them
She: (while walking inside the house to the kitchen) I don’t like this house, everything is white and outdated including all the appliances.
As soon as she said that, Hakeem literally chided her in a strong deep voice
Hakeem: I have told you so many times that this is the stupidest way to judge any house. Can you stop making judgment on minor things such as appliances or wall color? Am I clear about that?
Wow, I was taken back. If I had said the same thing in that tone to her, she wouldn’t have spoken with me for weeks. I was sure she won’t take this BS from Hakeem as well. But how wrong I was. She replied back by saying this
“I am sorry, it won’t happen again”
Later I told her that I was equally offended to which she said she wasn’t as Hakeem was right
This brought a big question for me. Do girls give more respect to strong alpha men, more than to an average men like me? Do they change their personality for them? She was clearly a “sub” in his presence, which is very different when she is with me. Is this a primal thing? What if he was an average white man?
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