A note for Ms. Sara
Hi Ms. Sara,
Regarding my query asking your opinion of Ms. Elise Sutton's advocacy of the concept and practice of female superiority, as described on her web site, in her e-zine "Predominant," and in her books (which I referenced), and your reply saying you would have to take time to do some reading:
I am still interested in any comments you might be willing to post on this subject.
If you should decide you would rather not comment, however, please say so and I will understand your reluctance. In any case, a picture is beginning to emerge, I would say, of the effectiveness of Ms. Elise's methods based on her assertion that many men secretly want to be dominated by a woman and will be willingly submissive if their wife or LTR partner takes the right approach. You can find it in the posts from Ms. Lexxi that begin with her post 149 of yesterday (21 Aug. 2010), in her thread "Curious Woman" (in the General Cuckoldry section of this forum), here:
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/16399-curious-wife-15.html
Regarding some of your other comments that you posted (for which I thank you, Ms. Sara):
Insurection said:
How do you like my cuckold, Insurrection, isn't he adorable? ....
Yes, from your point of view (which is, of course, by far the most important point of view), I can see he is adorable. For men, he's an inspiration.
Incidentally, I think it's very positive that you think of and refer to Tom as your cuckold not your husband. That seems an important aspect of helping him maintain a proper view of himself and his role in your marriage.
Insurection said:
The funny thing is how someone so smart and successful in business and life can be such a retard when it comes to sex. .... Notice the dork (Tom) even misspelled his screen name.
Yes, that is interesting. There certainly is no shortage of people, though, among both men and women, who are incapable of thinking and speaking rationally about sex and who (as a result, presumably) are also incapable of relating to their partners in sexually-competent ways.
Re. your cuckold Tom misspelling his screen name "Insurection:" I can assure you there are many well-educated and professionally-successful men... men who should know better... who have a poor grasp of grammar and spelling. In that sense, your cuckold can be said to be an almost-typical successful man.
This, of course, is no reason for you to refrain from humiliating your cuckold for his lack of spelling ability, as well as for many other reasons. You might consider requiring him to study spelling when he has completed his evening contributions to the housework, which should include, at a minimum (I would hope), cleaning up the kitchen and taking out the garbage.
Insurection said:
Now a few words for my heroines, you courageous hotwives. You may wonder why I degraded Insurrection so badly in front of Dwight. .... Seeing that Insurrection is just a pitiful loser, my lovers no longer feel guilty; rather, they think of themselves as coming to my rescue. ....
Clearly you have very good insight into the important role of humiliating your cuckold in front of your lovers, in the overall psychology of fucking other men, especially in your own home, in your marital bed, in front of your cuckold or while he listens.
Insurection said:
Think of a rodeo where the bulls and their riders are the excitement and the clowns are there only for the amusement of the audience.
This concept is a good comparison, Ms. Sara, but if I may be so bold as to offer a minor correction, the primary purpose of a rodeo clown is not to entertain the audience. Rather, it is to distract (entertain, you might say) the enraged bull or stallion who has bucked its rider to the ground, thereby saving the rider from being trampled to death.
Insurection said:
Let me tell you how I molded my husband's brain to serve me in matters of sex, but still function well in his business world.
Describing yourself as "re-molding" your cuckold's brain to better-suite your purposes is probably more appropriate than most people suspect. According to recent science-for-the-layperson books on brain science, the human brain almost literally does re-wire itself as the human of interest (your cuckold, in this case) learns and becomes skilled at new activities. See, for instance:
Medina, John, 2008. Brain Rules: 12 principles for surviving and thriving at work, home, and school. 301 pp. (hardcover).
Doidge, Norman, M.D., 2007. The Brain That Changes Itself: stories of personal triumph from the frontiers of brain science. 427 pp. (softcover).
Insurection said:
That way I have an exquisite sex life and at the same time benefit from the wealth he brings home.
These, of course, are the most important criteria for any woman to apply as she selects her man. An ability to "bring home wealth" is the usual proxy for "having good genes"... i.e., her man (yours, in this case) needs to be able to compete successfully relative to other men (and women).
Often it isn't possible, however, to select a man who is a good fuck and also capable of "bringing home wealth," since the latter often requires abilities of a more intellectual nature. In such cases, the woman (you, in this case) is best-advised to select a man who is well-qualified to "bring home wealth" and also has very good potential for accepting his upcoming role as her cuckold. In fact, a woman is usually best advised, IMO, to select a man with excellent cuckold potential even if, initially, he is a good fuck. This, of course, is because eventually she will time of his attempts (or lack thereof) to pleasure her sexually. I mean, how many times can a woman fuck the same husband, anyway, and still find him a turn-on? As you obviously understand well, when a woman does tire of her husband, the logical solution is to begin taking lovers, thereby making him her cuckold, while re-molding his brain (as you put it) to accept this as the privilege and prerogative of his wife (i.e., you), while also accepting that it is his duty and obligation to remain faithful to his wife, and support her as she expands her sexual horizons.
Obviously, Ms. Sara, you have accomplished this masterfully.
Insurection said:
My tool is not hypnosis, an over-hyped fantasy. My only tool is the simple handjob. For most of our ten-year marriage our primary sexual activity was the handjob, usually followed by cunilingus.
Excellent! Clearly, you understood from the beginning the importance of guiding Tom (initially, your cuckold-in-waiting) to acceptance of his primary "job" being to pleasure YOU as your cuntsucker, while accepting that YOU are the one who gives him orgasms but only after he has agreed to what you want from him, per your description below.
Insurection said:
We lay naked on our bed, him on his back and me on my side with my mouth near his ear. I stroked his little cock and spoke softly about kinky sexual ideas, such as how much fun it is to submit to your partner.
VERY good. Whispering suggestively what you wanted into your cuckold-in-waiting's ear while fondling his teenie-weenie showed deep psychological insight into a primary requirement for getting him to agree to what you wanted and needed, while also causing him to come to be convinced that he wanted and needed that himself. I suspect this could, in fact, be considered a form of hypnosis (although I'm not knowledgeable about that field).
Insurection said:
If he responded positively, I increased my stroking then upped the ante with suggestions such as, "Could you ask me to French kiss another man at the party?" A negative response resulted in a slower stroke, or even a complete withdrawal of my hand. I took it one small step at a time. Next, I would say: "Could you ask a man at the party to French kiss me?" [A woman who takes an approach along these lines can] eventually get to something like: "Say you want me to fuck your boss," [and she will be able to] get him to say it, even though he doesn't mean it. Soon, he will be saying it with meaning. That is when you take him to an orgasm. It may take months to get him there, but if you are patient you can get him to agree to almost anything. Now, my little hubbie is far along. I can tell him I am brainwashing him and he will ask for more.
Sometimes, however, I need to apply negative feedback. In such cases, I hold his cock in one hand and his balls in the other. A little squeezing of his balls can often overcome a negative attitude. You may have thought [requiring Insurrection to wear] a cock cage is how I control him. It's complementary, in that it serves [the useful purpose of] causing him to come to me to beg for hand jobs... because I am the only source of his release.
Brilliant! What more can I say? Nothing, except to comment that your process for transforming your husband to your cuckold does, in fact, appear to be a good example of "rewiring" or "establishing revised circuits" in his brain which have, effectively, resulted in full acceptance of what you want from him.
Insurection said:
Thank you for all the support you have been giving me. Dwight was a great fuck and Insurrection was a great (but unintended) clown. I hope you were amused.
You're welcome, Ms. Sara. I thank YOU for giving the forum such a complete description of your process for transforming your husband to your cuckold. It will be of great value, I'm sure, to any woman who reads it.
As for being amused... that really isn't quite the right way to put it. It's more like I've been both impressed and turned-on by your forum contributions.
—Custer