Concerned,
Concerned said:
I mentioned earlier in one of my posts that Lisa had become much more assertive. She has lately been telling me what to do in a very matter of fact way. “Get me a cup of coffee” “Vacuum the bedroom” etc. When I drive, which is not often any more, Lisa is constantly telling what turns to make, what lane to get into, and basically telling me how to drive. She had pretty much always been in charge in the bedroom, but this was different.
This is a positive development. Suitable replies to "Get me a cup of coffee," etc., would, of course, be "Yes, ma'am."
Regarding: "When I drive, which is not often any more...", you might consider suggesting to your wife that henceforth... when you go places together... she do the driving (always) while you will ride in the passengers seat (always, unless she tells you to drive). That would relieve her of the need to demonstrate her dominance indirectly by telling you how to drive, while making it clear, symbolically, that in your relationship she is now in the drivers seat.
Concerned said:
I finally decided to ask her about this change. She was pretty blunt. She said I was obviously accepting the fact that she needed another man in her life to satisfy her sexually, and she was sure that once it really happened I would show a nasty jealous streak. If she impresses on me that HER needs and desires are the most important by far, it will be easier for me to put aside this unpleasant part of my personality.
That was fairly blunt, all right, but on the plus side it demonstrated increasingly astute insight by your wife into the nature of your relationship...
Concerned said:
She topped it off with a real zinger: “And you like it, don’t you?” I had to admit I did.
...and the sexual power of her dominance of you. Your confession, of course, was appropriate... attempting do deny you liked it would have been futile.
Concerned said:
I then asked about one of my concerns. “Are you planning to try to feminize me?” She laughed. “No, but the thought has entered my mind."
No, no... of course not. But, well, hm... (she said, in effect)...
Concerned said:
"But then, I want to be seen with a man at my beck and call, not a sissy."
So many decisions, so little time...
Concerned said:
"But, come to think of it, if you get too jealous, having you wear panties might help you know your place" [she pointed out].
Yes, well... that shouldn't terrify you, I suppose, since your panties would be under your pants. I mean, who would know...? Except you, for whom it would serve as a daily reminder of your status, and... of course... your wife, for whom it would serve the same function.
For a discussion of the potential benefits to a woman of pantying her husband, be he her cuckold or otherwise, you might consider introducing your now-more-assertive wife (if you dare) to:
Making Him Mind, The Transition Begins
—Custer