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Hi Ms. Realgirl,
Excellent. What you mean by "rule over" is not entirely clear, exactly, but it sounds like you did not accept your BF's hesitation as an answer. Rather, you pushed him verbally until he admitted it turned him on... well, just a little bit... when another man felt you up in front of him. His acceptance of you ruling over him, as you say, until he made a somewhat-humiliating sexual confession to you is a good sign.
Rewarding your BF as you did for his slightly-humiliating confession (in which he told you what you wanted to hear) was the appropriate response on your part, Ms. Realgirl. It sounds like you're moving him forward...
—Custer
realgirl said:
Excellent. What you mean by "rule over" is not entirely clear, exactly, but it sounds like you did not accept your BF's hesitation as an answer. Rather, you pushed him verbally until he admitted it turned him on... well, just a little bit... when another man felt you up in front of him. His acceptance of you ruling over him, as you say, until he made a somewhat-humiliating sexual confession to you is a good sign.
Rewarding your BF as you did for his slightly-humiliating confession (in which he told you what you wanted to hear) was the appropriate response on your part, Ms. Realgirl. It sounds like you're moving him forward...
—Custer
An example...
Ms. Realgirl,
An example of a married woman successfully using the strategy I've suggested to you on her husband can be found in the thread initiated by "Insurection" in August 2010, in the General Cuckoldry section of this forum. It's post #37 of 16 August 2010, with "A thanks from Sara" on the subject line, Ms. Sara being Insurection's wife. That is, it's an example if the thread is true as opposed to a fantasy story. To give credit where credit is due, it was the source of my suggestion.
Insurection's thread is buried a ways back in the forum backlog, so I found it and have re-posted Ms. Sara's description here as a quote, as follows:
Note that having her husband wear a male chastity device, for which she is sole keyholder, was (and continues to be, I gather) an integral part of Ms. Sara's modis operandi.
There's at least one other example in this forum of a married woman successfully employing a strategy of this nature on her husband, whom she wanted to make her cuckold (or maybe they think of themselves as "swingers"). I'll find her description then re-post it for you.
—Custer
Ms. Realgirl,
An example of a married woman successfully using the strategy I've suggested to you on her husband can be found in the thread initiated by "Insurection" in August 2010, in the General Cuckoldry section of this forum. It's post #37 of 16 August 2010, with "A thanks from Sara" on the subject line, Ms. Sara being Insurection's wife. That is, it's an example if the thread is true as opposed to a fantasy story. To give credit where credit is due, it was the source of my suggestion.
Insurection's thread is buried a ways back in the forum backlog, so I found it and have re-posted Ms. Sara's description here as a quote, as follows:
Insurection said:
Note that having her husband wear a male chastity device, for which she is sole keyholder, was (and continues to be, I gather) an integral part of Ms. Sara's modis operandi.
There's at least one other example in this forum of a married woman successfully employing a strategy of this nature on her husband, whom she wanted to make her cuckold (or maybe they think of themselves as "swingers"). I'll find her description then re-post it for you.
—Custer
Ms. Realgirl,
Below is a quote of the post I mentioned that may be of interest to you. It was written by Ms. Cucktail and posted by her on 21 July 2010 in the General Cuckoldry section of this forum. "Another Woman's Story" is on the subject line. It's post #95 on page 10 of the thread initiated by Ms. Lexxi, which has "Curious Woman" on the subject line.
As you can see, the description is of the method used by Ms. Cucktail to gradually seduce her husband into becoming her cuckold... and, sometimes, her swinger partner. Note she comments "it took a lot of time... almost a year" (7th paragraph).
—Custer
Below is a quote of the post I mentioned that may be of interest to you. It was written by Ms. Cucktail and posted by her on 21 July 2010 in the General Cuckoldry section of this forum. "Another Woman's Story" is on the subject line. It's post #95 on page 10 of the thread initiated by Ms. Lexxi, which has "Curious Woman" on the subject line.
As you can see, the description is of the method used by Ms. Cucktail to gradually seduce her husband into becoming her cuckold... and, sometimes, her swinger partner. Note she comments "it took a lot of time... almost a year" (7th paragraph).
—Custer
Cucktail said:
You're welcome, Ms. Realgirl.
If your BF shows signs of becoming hostile in response to your strategy, such that you get the impression it might cost you your relationship with him if you continue, I would suggest writing it off as an unsuccessful experiment. In any event, you are the one who knows him and is "there on the scene," so to speak, so you will need to make careful judgements and, almost certainly, modify your strategy in accordance with how he is responding.
If your BF shows signs of becoming hostile in response to your strategy, such that you get the impression it might cost you your relationship with him if you continue, I would suggest writing it off as an unsuccessful experiment. In any event, you are the one who knows him and is "there on the scene," so to speak, so you will need to make careful judgements and, almost certainly, modify your strategy in accordance with how he is responding.
Perhaps you could include "normal" sex w/ you among his rewards for "good" answers...
Ms. Realgirl,
Hm... that's a difficult question. About how many times per week do you and your BF have "normal" sex, and what does it consist of? Do you usually have penetrative intercourse with him on top? With you on top? Or do you tend to use a mixture of different positions? Another consideration is, do you find normal sex with your BF satisfying, such that if you begin denying him, you would be punishing yourself? Or alternatively, do you find you usually don't orgasm during normal sex and thus feel like as far as that's concerned, you can "take it or leave it"?
I guess that was quite a few questions. Anyway, I asked the last one because apparently it's quite common for a woman to not orgasm during penetrative intercourse with her man. Rather, her man fucks her until he cums then rolls over and goes to sleep, leaving her hot but frustrated such that she either has to masturbate to bring herself off or go to sleep frustrated.
One way to handle it may be to include allowing your BF "normal" sex with you among his possible rewards (sometimes, but not every time) when he gives you a reply you want to hear in response to a question, while you're giving him a hand job... that is, with him lying on his back and you lying on your side speaking softly into his ear, in the style described by Ms. Cucktail (above). That is, where Ms. Cucktail said:
"So I started talking to [my husband] during sex ... dirty talk. The first time, I spread my ass and whispered in his ear that I'd love a big black cock in it now. He came so fast... I knew then that this idea turned him on and that I was well on my way to getting what I wanted."
"So I geared my dirty talk toward getting [my husband] involved, asking him what he wanted to see, telling him some of my fantasies, feeding off his reactions..."
Getting back to you, Ms. Realgirl... an additional way to handle it, when you reward your BF by allowing him intercourse, would be to gradually get him accustomed to YOU playing the dominant role and him being in male-inferior positions. Suppose, for instance, he normally fucks you in the missionary position, him on top. You might tell him: "Just for fun, sweetheart, lets try something new... I want to be on top tonight." Then fuck him using your own rhythm to maximize your own pleasure. If you sense he's going to cum before YOU orgasm, grab the base of his penis with one hand and abort his orgasm by squeezing hard, stopping your rhythm, and saying to him: "Not yet, sweetheart... remember, ladies first." Then, when you sense his pending orgasm has subsided, continue fucking him at your preferred pace. Continue fucking him in this way, aborting his orgasm each time you sense he's going to cum, until you've orgasmed yourself and feel satisfied... then continue fucking your BF until he cums (that, of course, being his reward).
—Custer
Ms. Realgirl,
realgirl said:
Hm... that's a difficult question. About how many times per week do you and your BF have "normal" sex, and what does it consist of? Do you usually have penetrative intercourse with him on top? With you on top? Or do you tend to use a mixture of different positions? Another consideration is, do you find normal sex with your BF satisfying, such that if you begin denying him, you would be punishing yourself? Or alternatively, do you find you usually don't orgasm during normal sex and thus feel like as far as that's concerned, you can "take it or leave it"?
I guess that was quite a few questions. Anyway, I asked the last one because apparently it's quite common for a woman to not orgasm during penetrative intercourse with her man. Rather, her man fucks her until he cums then rolls over and goes to sleep, leaving her hot but frustrated such that she either has to masturbate to bring herself off or go to sleep frustrated.
One way to handle it may be to include allowing your BF "normal" sex with you among his possible rewards (sometimes, but not every time) when he gives you a reply you want to hear in response to a question, while you're giving him a hand job... that is, with him lying on his back and you lying on your side speaking softly into his ear, in the style described by Ms. Cucktail (above). That is, where Ms. Cucktail said:
"So I started talking to [my husband] during sex ... dirty talk. The first time, I spread my ass and whispered in his ear that I'd love a big black cock in it now. He came so fast... I knew then that this idea turned him on and that I was well on my way to getting what I wanted."
"So I geared my dirty talk toward getting [my husband] involved, asking him what he wanted to see, telling him some of my fantasies, feeding off his reactions..."
Getting back to you, Ms. Realgirl... an additional way to handle it, when you reward your BF by allowing him intercourse, would be to gradually get him accustomed to YOU playing the dominant role and him being in male-inferior positions. Suppose, for instance, he normally fucks you in the missionary position, him on top. You might tell him: "Just for fun, sweetheart, lets try something new... I want to be on top tonight." Then fuck him using your own rhythm to maximize your own pleasure. If you sense he's going to cum before YOU orgasm, grab the base of his penis with one hand and abort his orgasm by squeezing hard, stopping your rhythm, and saying to him: "Not yet, sweetheart... remember, ladies first." Then, when you sense his pending orgasm has subsided, continue fucking him at your preferred pace. Continue fucking him in this way, aborting his orgasm each time you sense he's going to cum, until you've orgasmed yourself and feel satisfied... then continue fucking your BF until he cums (that, of course, being his reward).
—Custer
You need to begin his education on the importance of bringing you to orgasm...
Hi Ms. Realgirl,
Regarding:
If you never have orgasms during intercourse with your BF, that does not bode well for the long-term future of your relationship. Thus, you need to expand your campaign, so to speak, and teach him how to bring *you* to orgasm before he cums himself.
I suggest starting his education very soon... a good way to begin, probably, would be to introduce him to:
The-Clitoris.com: Dedicated to Female Sexual Pleasure and Health
This is a fairly vast site, so you may be better off to begin by first introducing him to:
The-Clitoris.com: Cunnilingus: A How to Guide for Orally Stimulating the Vulva
(which is a "how to do it" description). I also suggest first talking to him along the lines that he should not be the only one who cums when you have sex; you need to orgasm too. But, "most women" find it difficult or impossible to orgasm via normal penetrative intercourse; rather, it's much easier for most women to orgasm if their man goes down on them (i.e., gives them cunnilingus*) and continues until they do. If you say "most women" instead of putting this in terms of "you personally," that may reduce the probability of your BF thinking you're accusing him of being inadequate.
*If you BF seems to be turned on when you "talk dirty" to him, after bringing up in a normal conversational way the desirability of him giving you cunnilingus (until you orgasm) prior to sexual intercourse, you might consider leaning over and whispering into his ear: "I want you to become my cuntsucker, sweetheart..."
—Custer
Hi Ms. Realgirl,
Regarding:
realgirl said:
If you never have orgasms during intercourse with your BF, that does not bode well for the long-term future of your relationship. Thus, you need to expand your campaign, so to speak, and teach him how to bring *you* to orgasm before he cums himself.
I suggest starting his education very soon... a good way to begin, probably, would be to introduce him to:
The-Clitoris.com: Dedicated to Female Sexual Pleasure and Health
This is a fairly vast site, so you may be better off to begin by first introducing him to:
The-Clitoris.com: Cunnilingus: A How to Guide for Orally Stimulating the Vulva
(which is a "how to do it" description). I also suggest first talking to him along the lines that he should not be the only one who cums when you have sex; you need to orgasm too. But, "most women" find it difficult or impossible to orgasm via normal penetrative intercourse; rather, it's much easier for most women to orgasm if their man goes down on them (i.e., gives them cunnilingus*) and continues until they do. If you say "most women" instead of putting this in terms of "you personally," that may reduce the probability of your BF thinking you're accusing him of being inadequate.
*If you BF seems to be turned on when you "talk dirty" to him, after bringing up in a normal conversational way the desirability of him giving you cunnilingus (until you orgasm) prior to sexual intercourse, you might consider leaning over and whispering into his ear: "I want you to become my cuntsucker, sweetheart..."
—Custer
Amazing, We went to the mall with me in a dress that barely covered my cheeks. It was a bit sheer too. Guys were openly checking me out they even made eye contact with my bf who always broke it and looked down. Now he actively participates when we talk about guys checking me out while I give him a hand job.
