this past weekend
Thanks for the post. I would like to say that Amber is being open. She has told me everything. I am pretty good at telling when she is lying or holding back. I also could never do the swinging thing. I am not looking to be with anyone else. I just want her to date again. I think it is hot and something she would like if she got into it.
I am also ok with her having some emotions for another guy. It may sound odd, but that is a turn on to me. I don't want it to be love but heavy liking is ok. I also think I could share her if she did fall in love. So if it happened we would deal with it.
Last week went like this. Again sorry if it is little long.
Thursday - They just stayed in with a few of the girls. Wine and finally sleep.
Friday – Work. She called me just to see what I was doing. We chatted nothing much. I could tell she was up to something though.
It was a third double date that night with Joy, her boyfriend, and Matt. She said they saw a friend of mine and she talked to them. I am sure I will hear something at work once i see them. She said nothing happened and it didn't matter. She told them I was working and was meeting them later.
Matt apparently left after just a little bit at Joy's. His girlfriend was coming home for a few days and he had to be there early the next morning. I said so nothing happened. She said oh ya. I took him to the back and jumped him. A girl has her needs. I just started laughing. She did to. She said no. She would never do anything like that.
I reminded her that it was their third date. She laughed and said ya what ever. She got a little quite though.
Saturday – she went to a club with her friends. She danced with a few guys apparently. She said nothing really happened. One guy kissed her but she pushed him away. I was really turned on by that.
Sunday – we talked and she napped.
Monday – I was off so we had a few nice secessions together. I joked her about Matt. She told me she gets enough of that from her friends. I joked that maybe she wouldn't if she would just go out with him. She said she would never do that and to stop. I said why not. He has a girlfriend and you have a husband. It is not like you have to do anything. I said I know you use to love dating. She said ya but She would never do it now. I said why. She said I don't know. I'm not suppose to. What if I am ok with it? She said your not the one going out.
I said so you don't like Matt then. She said not like that. I said you may not love him but you know you would want to go out with him. She gave me the look and said no. I said you are so full of it. She said ok what if he kissed me. I said big deal he already has. What if he touched me. I laughed and said it is just skin. She said what if he wants more. I said you are a big girl. Don't you think he would stop if you asked him to. She said ya. I said hell I wouldn't care if you did it. She slapped me on the arm. I said what. She said she would never. I said did you ever think you would have gone on a double date since we are marriend. She said no, but it wasn't that.
I said fine what was it. She said we are just friends. I said ok then why can't friends go out one on one. I use to do that in school. She asked me if I really didn't care if she went out with him. I said no not at all. She just rolled her eyes.
Tuesday – We went to Joy's tonight for a foursome dinner. It was nice. I got to see more of the guest room. A lot was going through my head looking in. It was a pretty cool set up I had to admit. I also caught Joy and Amber talking.
On the way home she admitted they talked while we were not around them. She said Joy was trying to get her to go out with Matt one on one now. She said she finally told Joy ok. I said that is great. She said you really arent mad are you. I said no. I told you I wasn't. She said she actually told her she might do it. I said prude. She said Pimp.We both laughed. She said she still didn't feel right about it.
I don't know what more to do. I was hoping to get more advice. Thanks!
Thanks for the post. I would like to say that Amber is being open. She has told me everything. I am pretty good at telling when she is lying or holding back. I also could never do the swinging thing. I am not looking to be with anyone else. I just want her to date again. I think it is hot and something she would like if she got into it.
I am also ok with her having some emotions for another guy. It may sound odd, but that is a turn on to me. I don't want it to be love but heavy liking is ok. I also think I could share her if she did fall in love. So if it happened we would deal with it.
Last week went like this. Again sorry if it is little long.
Thursday - They just stayed in with a few of the girls. Wine and finally sleep.
Friday – Work. She called me just to see what I was doing. We chatted nothing much. I could tell she was up to something though.
It was a third double date that night with Joy, her boyfriend, and Matt. She said they saw a friend of mine and she talked to them. I am sure I will hear something at work once i see them. She said nothing happened and it didn't matter. She told them I was working and was meeting them later.
Matt apparently left after just a little bit at Joy's. His girlfriend was coming home for a few days and he had to be there early the next morning. I said so nothing happened. She said oh ya. I took him to the back and jumped him. A girl has her needs. I just started laughing. She did to. She said no. She would never do anything like that.
I reminded her that it was their third date. She laughed and said ya what ever. She got a little quite though.
Saturday – she went to a club with her friends. She danced with a few guys apparently. She said nothing really happened. One guy kissed her but she pushed him away. I was really turned on by that.
Sunday – we talked and she napped.
Monday – I was off so we had a few nice secessions together. I joked her about Matt. She told me she gets enough of that from her friends. I joked that maybe she wouldn't if she would just go out with him. She said she would never do that and to stop. I said why not. He has a girlfriend and you have a husband. It is not like you have to do anything. I said I know you use to love dating. She said ya but She would never do it now. I said why. She said I don't know. I'm not suppose to. What if I am ok with it? She said your not the one going out.
I said so you don't like Matt then. She said not like that. I said you may not love him but you know you would want to go out with him. She gave me the look and said no. I said you are so full of it. She said ok what if he kissed me. I said big deal he already has. What if he touched me. I laughed and said it is just skin. She said what if he wants more. I said you are a big girl. Don't you think he would stop if you asked him to. She said ya. I said hell I wouldn't care if you did it. She slapped me on the arm. I said what. She said she would never. I said did you ever think you would have gone on a double date since we are marriend. She said no, but it wasn't that.
I said fine what was it. She said we are just friends. I said ok then why can't friends go out one on one. I use to do that in school. She asked me if I really didn't care if she went out with him. I said no not at all. She just rolled her eyes.
Tuesday – We went to Joy's tonight for a foursome dinner. It was nice. I got to see more of the guest room. A lot was going through my head looking in. It was a pretty cool set up I had to admit. I also caught Joy and Amber talking.
On the way home she admitted they talked while we were not around them. She said Joy was trying to get her to go out with Matt one on one now. She said she finally told Joy ok. I said that is great. She said you really arent mad are you. I said no. I told you I wasn't. She said she actually told her she might do it. I said prude. She said Pimp.We both laughed. She said she still didn't feel right about it.
I don't know what more to do. I was hoping to get more advice. Thanks!
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