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acuriouswife
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Eno said:One of life's realities is that at some point of their lives, many if not most wives (and husbands...) will stray. This usually means cheating on their spouses, and as we all know cheating is never right and it can mean the end of an otherwise happy marriage.
So why not consider cuckolding for what it really is: a free pass for extramarital sex for a wife who is in a loving and emotionally stable relationship and who understands that by accepting this free pass, whether she acts on it or not (which should be her decision and hers alone) she will ensure her husband's fidelity and protect her marriage from the consequences of adultery.
Eno,
I disagree that one of life's realities is that married people stray. I took vows to one man and one man vowed to me. Cheating is unacceptable.
This free pass you speak of is something that "I" do NOT want. I have NO desire to have sex with another man. I do not understand if you truly love your wife you want her to be with another man. How is this 'free pass' going to ensure my husband's fidelity and protect my marriage? Really?
I did not sign up for an open marriage, that's what this really is. I have and share a fantasy of being with another man while my husband is there. The "other man" during this fantasy IS my husband. It's a FANTASY, nothing more, nothing less.
My husband's obsession with this site is breaking down my love and respect for him. I am very sad that he feels the need to come here every single day because he "likes to read the stories", and the videos he watches are quite disturbing to me.
For you, this lifestyle works. I'm happy for you. But this is something I am 100% against for ME. I am not here to judge. I DO appreciate your input. I have received a LOT of support via messages and am very grateful to them.
I am continuing to research, seek advice and listen.