Pretty Good Sign, I think

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Click! I am now a caged-cuck (wannbe).

--Wow, I cannot believe the progress we have made in the cuckolding/Hotwifing lifestyle. Wife has an anklet with a key and I have a device on my gentials that keeps me reminded of my role as her cuckold. This is pretty awesome.

--My wife is still getting use to the device on me. She just smirks looking at it and cannot believe this is what I want. She asked how she is supposed to get sexual satisfaction. I (again) reminded to her about the toys...and of course, this is where a Bull comes into the picture. She is either slowly putting it all together...or (sometimes I think) she just wants/needs me to say it. Kind of a way to ensure her this is what I desire sexually.

--She has started the book. We actually read the first two chapters together in bed. From her facial expressions while reading, this is definitely something new and exciting for her/us. She told me it is going to take time to get comfortable with the books advice and instructions, but is willing to play. And last night while laying in bed she grinding her ass into my genitals and then playfully said, 'now the denial begins'. Yes, I went to bed (and woke up) with an erection....however, I was/am not mad about it, I am actually more turned on! I can already sense a need to cater to her non-sexual needs for my sexual release. A deeper sense of closeness. She has not finished the book, but so far things appear to be going well.

--Looking forward to seeing how long I will be chastised.
 
  • #102
Cuckykny said:
Click! I am now a caged-cuck (wannabe). Wow, I cannot believe the progress we have made in the cuckolding/Hotwifing lifestyle. My wife has an anklet with a key and I have a device on my gentials that keeps me reminded of my role as her cuckold. This is pretty awesome.

If your wife feels so confident that she is wearing the key to your chastity device openly on her anklet, that's definitely a good sign.

Cuckykny said:
My wife is still getting used to the device on me. She just smirks looking at it and cannot believe this is what I want. She asked how she is supposed to get sexual satisfaction. I (again) reminded her about her toys... and, of course, this is where a Bull comes into the picture. She is either slowly putting it all together... or (sometimes I think) she just wants/needs me to say it. Kind of a way to ensure her this is what I desire sexually.

Your wife requiring you to confess out loud, repeatedly, that you want her to take a lover is good strategy on her part.

Cuckykny said:
She has started the book. We actually read the first two chapters together in bed. From her facial expressions while reading, this is definitely something new and exciting for her (and us). She told me it is going to take time to get comfortable with the book's advice and instructions, but she is willing to play. And last night while laying in bed she ground her ass into my genitals then playfully said, 'now the denial begins'. Yes, I went to bed (and woke up) with an erection....however, I was not mad about it. I am actually more turned on!

So far, so good...

Cuckykny said:
I can already sense a need to cater to her non-sexual needs for my sexual release; we have a deeper sense of closeness. She has not finished the book, but so far things appear to be going well.

It sounds like your marriage has taken another positive step forward.
 
  • #103
Hi Cuckykny, sorry I didn't reply to your last message I keep forgetting to check back on this site. It sounds as if you are making some great progress and I am very jealous as a result. My wife has not been well for a little while now so it's all on hold for me although she knows I still have very strong cuckold desires. I hope to get on course with things again in some months when she's hopefully better but in the mean time I have been re-reading some of your posts and I going to try the blindfold approach next time the opportunity arises.

We have spoken about a cage before but she just thinks they and indeed I am a bit weird. Hopefully slow progress following your lead will help, it would be great if you could share this with you wife to get a female perspective and see if she has any advice that might help me progress with my wife.
 
  • #104
Pretty good sign....I think! :)

--Yesterday afternoon after my wife got home, I playfully grinded my genitals into her as I kissed her. She told that 'wow you must be horney, you feel so hard'. I grinned and told her that I was wearing the device. So, we took it to the bedroom and she told me to remove my clothes. There I was laying on the bed with nothing on but the chasity device. What a sight, I am sure. She laid next to me and said she was ready to try teasing me. She began to gently stroke my balls and the plastic cage around my dick. Very sensitive and visually intense. She kept asking and I kept reassuring her that her technique was definitely working. The device limits my wife's normal feedback of a hard and erect cock. But I am sure my breathing and reaction from her touches left no doubt. She then suddenly stopped teasing me and told me it was her turn. Wow. So, I slowly rubbed my hands over body and tits, before moving over her and licking down her erect nipples and lovely body. After bringing her to an intense orgasm (tongue and fingers), I asked her if I was going to be uncaged. She smiled, turned her back towards me, and said that I was not begging enough so 'no'. Denied! Wow, what a feeling.

--As we laid there, he had a pretty open discussion. She admitted that she had read more/most of the book...and btw, the book does not focus chasity around the cuckold lifestyle, but around FLR (Female Lead Relationship).
wife: Do you know exactly what a butt-plug or strap-on are?
me: ummm, sort of (I really have never used either one)
wife: the book mentions that some guys like their prostrate massaged during sex. Do you think you would?
me: (ok, I really was not prepared for this discussion). I am not sure, I guess we could try. (Anyone try/use these devices?)

I would have never thought that pursing cuckolding would lead my wife and I to have a serious conversation about the idea of her wearing a strap-on device and mounting me!

Another part of our conversation:
wife: I know you want me to have sex with other men...but why do the women do this? (just her saying this made my dick rock hard)
me: (based on my online chatting with other cucks and my personal feelings on the lifestyle) I explain to her about the sexual gratification I/we (cucks) receive knowing our wife's are being sexually fulfilled by an Alpha male. And the women enjoy the great sex that comes from being dominated by a 'real-man'
wife: What do you mean?
me: I don't feel inadequate and I know I am pretty good in bed. But maybe having a different style or technique, or maybe a bigger cock would make sex more exciting for you (and me).
wife:eek:k...I just wanted to make sure that you know I am very happy with you. I am not sure about a real Bull...yet (her words). I have trouble separating love and sex. I would need to be seriously *****.
me: That is ok. I don't want you to submit to a Bull until you are ready. I want you to do it for you. We could do OTHER things until then.
wife: like what things?
me: I do enjoy you flirting, oral, handjobs...until you feel comfortable for more.
wife: hmmmm....will you still respect me after? (just pointing out that she did not say 'no')
me: definitely...I respect you for more than just sex, I love and respect everything about you.
wife: (after some kissing) You are the best. Thanks for caring about my sexual needs. I feel selfish. I know you are moving me into in the lifestyle. Thanks for discussing this with me; instead of, being sexually frustrated or even trying to find a different women to do this with.
me: I just wasn't sure you would think I am weird. And most of the cucks I have met online say it takes a couple of years for their wife's to get comfortable with the lifestyle.
wife: Will see...I will go online and talk with more women...and you are not weird.

--And this morning she noted that I took off my device without permission. I told I was just taking a shower. She told me that I needed permission to be unlocked and go get on the device. She then had me put her anklet/key on and lock the spare key.

--@Slammer69, sorry to hear that your wife is not well. Hope she gets better. I some how got the courage to show my wife the device online, we discussed the win-win advantage for her and she gave the ok. Without hesitation I ordered it with the book. Like I said the book focuses on FLR, but there really was not a good reference on cuckolding and chasity....maybe I will write the book based on my own experience.

--Exciting times.
 
  • #105
She is good, she is learning and you are guiding her in the right direction by talking and sharing your feelings and desires with her. I love the fact that she is denying you and also I give you major kudos for not trying to force her to take a bull and telling her you want her to be comfortable and want it for herself not to satisfy some fantasy for you. I cannot wait to see what happens next
 
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  • #106
Ditto smallcockedcuck916.
 
  • #107
Pretty good signs....I think. ;)

This afternoon my (to be) Hotwife and I began 'fooling' around...yes, I am still in chasity. As things began to heat up, my wife started to ask a lot of questions regarding cuckolding. One of the questions she asked was about how many of the husbands I chat with online wife's really 'cuck' them. I told her about 50%. (Looking back at that question I should have said 90%) She was a little surprised but in agreement since it is a cuckolding chat room. She really asked a lot of questions focused on the wife's point of view. I told her I didn't really chat up the wife's (which I don't) and she should go online more to get anwsers.

--I am sure she wants to know more about the wife's in general, what drives the wife's to actually do this, and how the husbands feel afterwards.

After some more conversing (which even included questions about video chatting) she did say that she would watch some more of the cuckoldoing movies I had downloaded for her. (She really doesn't watch a lot of porn, so this is a good sign she wants to learn more about cuckolding). I even asked her if she was getting more comfortable with the idea of cucking me and she replied, 'yes'. After some more fondling she said, 'I am so horney right now anyone could have me'. I has like, 'really? Hot.' She quickly relied, 'not yet, but let's get you unlocked'.

--I really think I am the right situation way from getting cuck'd. Thoughts on proceeding?
 
  • #108
Good to hear from you again, Cuckykny.

Cuckykny said:
I am still in chastity.

Hang in there...

Cuckykny said:
As things began to heat up [in our bedroom], my wife started to ask a lot of questions regarding cuckolding.

"The beginning of wisdom is the asking of many questions." (I can't recall the origin of this quote, unfortunately.)

Cuckykny said:
Thoughts on proceeding?

This may be a good time to introduce your wife to:

Modern directions in human sexuality:
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(and read it yourself, if you haven't already. Fill in the indicated punctuation, of course, without spaces.)

I think she'll find it will answer most... perhaps all... of her questions. It is not pornographic, takes a very reasonable approach, and is well-written.

Thanks for the update.
 
  • #109
@rjone...Thanks for the advice. Just curious are you a cuck or a Bull? I just want to know what perspective you are coming from.

--I wanted to mention, that during our last sexual encounter my Hotwife did ask me what I had done to deserve to be 'freed'. I told her that I had given her permission for her to go get sexually dominated by a real-man...what more could she want (playfully). And as I was using the 'Bull' on her, I told her to imagine being dominated by a Bull with a thicker and bigger cock putting her on all fours and making her take every inch of his big cock.

My wife was really into it and came pretty hard.

--I am sure in the right situation, or if the right Bull came along I would be cuck'd.
 
  • #110
Cuckykny said:
I am sure in the right situation, or if the right Bull came along I would be cuck'd.

One of your main duties as your wife's cuckold — arguably, your most important duty — will be to protect her.

Since there don't seem to be other men — single men she knows, or works with, or whom the two of you know — who are potential lovers; rather, she "flirts" with potential lovers aka bulls online, you might consider a strategy along the following lines.

1) Assist your wife with writing an advert, and post it on a suitable online forum (say, this one and the forums she's been using to "chat" with potential bulls).

2) Sort through the responses — taking into account what they say, how they say it, etc. — and select "several" (i.e., a finite number) whom your wife finds appealing.

3) Select the most appealing candidate (this can be arbitrary, if there are more than 1), and make arrangements for both you and your wife to meet with him at a neutral location — say, a coffee shop or restaurant (no alcohol) for lunch. Do not give the candidate your address or phone number.

4) During lunch, talk with him and decide whether he's someone your wife and you want to proceed further with. Set up a pre-arranged signal. For instance, if he's a slick talker and your wife seems entranced, but you can see he's bad news, touch her leg with your foot under the table, then end the lunch with some polite pleasantries, and leave. Or, if you think he's a good candidate but your wife doesn't like him, she can touch your leg with her foot under the table, then similarly end the lunch with some polite pleasantries, and leave.

5) If your wife's first candidate doesn't seem good (per 4), contact her next candidate, and do the same.

6) When you and your wife identify a candidate she feels she has some chemistry with, and you agree he seems OK (during lunch at your neutral location), make arrangements to meet him at a second neutral location, but this time make it a reasonably-nice bar that serves alcohol and has a dance floor. The purpose of this second meeting should be to enable your wife to dance closely with him; you could give them some "alone time" by making (for instance) an extended trip to the rest room and/or going outside to "make a business call." But, do not yet give him your address or phone number.

7) If your wife decides she is attracted to her candidate, she should let you know — then, the two of you could make arrangements to meet him at a hotel (not your home, and probably not at his home, either). There, if you have sufficient spare change, you could rent two rooms side-by-side, one for them, the other for you (but, make sure you have keys to both rooms). Or, alternatively, rent one room in which you will be present while your wife fucks her candidate. The arrangement should be such that you will be in a position to protect your wife, if her candidate turns out to be a really bad apple.

8) Finally, if your wife's candidate appears to be a good score as a lover, you can exchange phone numbers and address information, and move on to arrangements for future meetings at (say) your home, or his.

I suggest an approach along these lines, at the risk of seeming "overly cautious," because men who are angling online for a woman often — perhaps usually — try to present themselves as something other than what they are.

Also, if you begin talking with your wife along these lines at this point, it may have the effect of moving her from viewing all this as abstract, and potentially risky, to concrete and probably safe, because you will be involved in a way that will enable you to protect her if necessary.
 
  • #111
Rjone you are probably right (and I hope you are), she may be waiting for me to take the initative of finding a Bull. Custard thanks for the great advice in finding a suitable Bull.

--For some reason, I was hoping that finding a Bull would happen more sponanteous...the fantasy of us being out and a guy (Bull) taking the initative of hitting on my wife, but that is probably not realistic. Reading about cuckold encounters, I know I have to weed out the 'players' and be more proactive in this aspect.

--The next time my Hotwife and I are playing I will bring up if she would mind if I set up an ad to find a potential Bull.
Or do you think I should just do it and then show her the guys interested in her? Advice?
 
  • #112
Cuckykny said:
The next time my [potential] Hotwife and I are playing, I will bring up if she would mind if I set up an ad to find a potential Bull. Or, do you think I should just do it, then show her the guys interested in her? Advice?

You might "get the ball rolling" by writing a rough draft of an advert, but you should definitely talk with your wife about it, show her your draft, and come to agreement with her on the wording before posting it.

If you write and post an advert without your wife's knowledge, she might be stunned, offended by your presumptuousness, and refuse to have anything further to do with the whole idea. The net effect could be to set her (and you as well) back a long ways.

And, it could be doubly embarrassing because you would then have to write to all the aspiring men who responded, saying: "Um... er... sorry... my wife doesn't want to do this after all..."
 
  • #113
Definitely pretty good sign, I think.

Today, I was caged (initially) when we started fooling around. I was enjoying the feeling of her curvy body pressed against mine and the joy of hearing her moan as I kissed along her neck and tits knowing that I would probably not be released from my chasity device to fully experience my wife's wet cunt.

--Chasity is actually quite sexually arosing...knowing you will just be the 'warm-up man'.

Eventually my wife was laying across the bed naked with her legs draped over the edge and me on my knees on the floor licking her now very wet pussy. I paused to ask if I was going to be freed from chasity or should I get the 'Bull' (dildo). She flat out stated that she didn't care but she needed to be fucked. So, I quickly got our Bull.

I really enjoy watching her body react as I slowly penetrate her with the much bigger cock. Her nipples fully erect. Her arms streched over her head allowing her body to take in every bit of the 9.5 inch girthy dildo. After about 10-minutes of deeply messaging her cunt and listening to her moan with each stroke, she ordered me to rub her clit. Within seconds she has screaming and convulsing with pleasure.

As she caught her breath and I laid beside her (caged) we begin to talk. We discussed many cuckold topics.

We discussed the kind of men she is attracted to and if she is interested in men with bigger cocks. The physical traits should not be that hard to find...darker/black hair, little facial gruff (no beards or mustaches), athletic build, darker skin tone, etc... Finding a personality with those traits that both understands and appreciates the Bull role in cuckolding I am sure is going to be the tricky part. She is very interested in seeing and feeling a 'real' bigger cock. Race is unimportant.

She is curious about how the wife's initally meet the Bull's/Dom's to include if the husbands come on these 'dates' and/or do we just all meet at a hotel (like the porn videos we have watched). And how active of a role do they play in our life. I let her know that it really depends on the couple and that for us it would depend on what she wants. If she prefers to go on a 'date' without me that would be absolutely fine, but if she wanted me to be close (or there) in case things got weird I would do that as well. We both felt on the inital meeting it may be best for me to come. As far as the hotel meeting, I explained again that it depends on what she wants to do. If she felt like she wanted to check on chemisty before taking it to the bedroom, we could all meet for drinks at a bar or club, or if she wants we can get together at a hotel. We both would perfer this to happen more spontaneously, while out she finds a guy to flirt with or an Alpha male picks her up, etc... If this method doesn't work then we will consider posting an ad. (She is not against posting an ad, just perfers something more natural). I did go in some detail on the role a Dom plays in our sexual life and she has done some of her own research on the topic. She is a little concerned about bringing another male into our home. I told her that that part of the lifestyle is her choice, as the cuck, I am readily willing to accept her sexual desires and demands at any level.

Then we even discussed and agreed the Bull would need to use condoms and she would consider going back on the pill!

She even asked if I and the (potential) Bull found getting her lady area waxed sexy. Of course, I replied hell yeah! And, she agreed that she would wear albeit a temporary tattoo of the Queen of Spades. Sweet. She did say I would need to look for temporary tattoo of deer antlers. :)

And YES, my wife has agreed to cuck me! She wants to do it both for my desire and her own interest in the lifestyle. We discussed our love and commitment for each other and what cuckolding will bring to our marriage.

And to top it all off, after this discussion she rolled towards me, smiled and said, 'Its time to unlock you'. This is the first time in 15+ years we have had sex more than once in the same day, let alone in 20 minutes. I moved my hand to her cunt, and she was WET. She wasted no time mounting me and we both came in minutes.

We are planning a short get away in a couple of weeks, so we will see what happens. If no potential Bulls are found, maybe then I will encourage her to put up an Ad.
 
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  • #114
yes of course tell her black
 
  • #115
I cross my fingers for you
 
  • #116
Cuckykny said:
And YES, my wife has agreed to cuck me! She wants to do it both for my desire and her own interest in the lifestyle. We discussed our love and commitment for each other and what cuckolding will bring to our marriage.

Congratulations! Your (reasonable) persistence has paid off — or will in the near future, it look like...

Cuckykny said:
And, to top it all off, after this discussion she rolled towards me, smiled and said, 'Its time to unlock you'. This is the first time in 15+ years we have had sex more than once in the same day, let alone in 20 minutes. I moved my hand to her cunt, and she was WET. She wasted no time mounting me and we both came in minutes.

And, your willingness to demonstrate your commitment by wearing a chastity device for your wife has also paid off. And, obviously the whole idea makes her hot, and she's demonstrating that openly to you...

Regarding:

Cuckykny said:
We are planning a short get away in a couple of weeks, so we will see what happens. If no potential Bulls are found, maybe then I will encourage her to put up an Ad.

I think Rjone's comment:

rjone said:
The weekend away is not that likely to work out. ....

is probably right. Other men are not likely to hit on your wife if you're with her, or if they even sense that you're "around" somewhere nearby (IMO).

But, Rjone's suggestions:

rjone said:
I would just put up the add. Finding a bull the natural way is much harder, unless she is going to go out alone. You will have a much better range of guys to choose from with an add.

Alternative... put up an add secretly for a guy who lives locally to where you are going on vacation, and arrange for him to go to the bar or club that you are planning to go to with your wife. Tell him it is her desire to flirt and meet someone but he should keep it secret that you pre-arranged anything. When you have to go to the bathroom or whatever it can be his signal to come over and talk with your wife, see how things go from there.

seem likely to have a better chance of succeeding. It would be best if you could set it up such that your wife will not feel she has "failed" if she doesn't score on her (and, perhaps secretly your) first attempt, because that could cause her to become discouraged. If she concludes she hasn't succeeded because she's "unattractive," that could set the whole effort back quite a ways.
 
  • #117
May I bring in my feminine view?
Your wife seems definitely intrigued, if not interested, but you need to take a step by step approach.
Next one could be to go to a bar on a date nite. Choose one with a dance floor.
Ask her to show you the guys she finds good looking, then suggest that if she would dance with one of them, that would be the beginning of your cuckolding adventure.
 
  • #118
@Jf4uidf, I am basically doing your suggestion. This weekend we are going to a resort with a lively night life....and I am hoping she will, with a little hubby encouragment, get out on the dance floor with an Alpha male to get our cuckold adventure going.

I agree with Custard and rjone that there is a possibility of not finding any males to dance with my wife...and/or males that know the role of a Bull/Dom.

I will keep you all posted.
 
  • #119
Just a pic...worth a 1000 words. And of course, a pretty good sign, I think.

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Yes, she knows what it signifies and is very ok with it.

--Wanted to add that my wife mentioned about keeping me 'locked-up' for a couple of months at a time...she is obviously enjoying my chasity and teasing me. I told her how erotic that sounded to me. She joked that I wouldn't be able to do it. I jokingly replied that I didn't think SHE could go that long. She sexually whispered to me, 'oh, I get to keep getting mine.' ;)
 
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  • #120
Dancing is a good way for a wife to get used to touching another man's hands, etc, and be inside his comfort circle. Dancing with different partners soon develops into something that feels OKAY and then of course is sitting close at the same table for drinks and conversation.

Strangers who become dancing partners can become lovers. Dancing does 80% of the work, and hugging and kissing is a natural progression when a friendship is forming quickly.

A wannabe cuckold needs to encourage his wife to dance with men as often as possible - coz it starts off holding hands innocently to complete the movements of the dance.