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Kim ..
This is where I get a great deal of resistance from colleagues and they dismiss my findings as invalid. You've stumbled upon something very rooted in the core of the tenets of psychology.
Here is a very, very abridged version of my colleagues' perspective.
The id, ego and super-ego are three different parts of the psyche.
The id is instinct.
The ego is a realistic approach.
The super-ego is a moralistic approach.
My colleagues find the form of cuckolding discussed on this site, and that I have seen in my practice in increasing numbers, invalid. The reasons for this are what is presented in the id, the ego and the super-ego. They consider the sum to be invalid. They say this is a form of socially safe expressions of latent male homosexuality.
I disagree.
I see it in real life.
And, it's much more bizarre in real life than it is on these, or other, boards.
Without becoming too technical and going in to a 7,000 word explanation, it is my opinion ... opinion ... that emasculation must be witnessed by someone before it is valid. That's the entire point. Therefore, self-emasculation is an oxymoron. Again, without actually speaking of the literal term of taking a Ginsu knife to yourself (WAIT, HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR ALL THIS??!!!).
I hope I am explaining myself and my perspective effectively. I try very hard not to get too technical and boring.
In your case, Kim .. your id was conflicting with your ego and super-ego. Your instinct was telling you that you wanted an Alpha male. Morally, you had conflicting feelings. And, of course, as you mentioned ... your ego .. the reality of the situation conflicted with the other two.
You basically were in a no-win situation, Kim. I wouldn't beat myself up about it too much. It's called being a human. Again, my advice .. just move in to the future in the most efficient way possible.
It is what it is.
Leave it alone or it is a long and tangled road you seek.
I make my house payment off of long and tangled roads.
Doc
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kimcarl said:My husband frequently said that I was trying to emasculate him. This is true to some degree. He gave a strong no-way to my actions. If he had gone along, and actually became excited by this, I can see, however unprofessional the assessment, that on some level he would be self-emasculating.
Kim ..
This is where I get a great deal of resistance from colleagues and they dismiss my findings as invalid. You've stumbled upon something very rooted in the core of the tenets of psychology.
Here is a very, very abridged version of my colleagues' perspective.
The id, ego and super-ego are three different parts of the psyche.
The id is instinct.
The ego is a realistic approach.
The super-ego is a moralistic approach.
My colleagues find the form of cuckolding discussed on this site, and that I have seen in my practice in increasing numbers, invalid. The reasons for this are what is presented in the id, the ego and the super-ego. They consider the sum to be invalid. They say this is a form of socially safe expressions of latent male homosexuality.
I disagree.
I see it in real life.
And, it's much more bizarre in real life than it is on these, or other, boards.
Without becoming too technical and going in to a 7,000 word explanation, it is my opinion ... opinion ... that emasculation must be witnessed by someone before it is valid. That's the entire point. Therefore, self-emasculation is an oxymoron. Again, without actually speaking of the literal term of taking a Ginsu knife to yourself (WAIT, HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR ALL THIS??!!!).
I hope I am explaining myself and my perspective effectively. I try very hard not to get too technical and boring.
In your case, Kim .. your id was conflicting with your ego and super-ego. Your instinct was telling you that you wanted an Alpha male. Morally, you had conflicting feelings. And, of course, as you mentioned ... your ego .. the reality of the situation conflicted with the other two.
You basically were in a no-win situation, Kim. I wouldn't beat myself up about it too much. It's called being a human. Again, my advice .. just move in to the future in the most efficient way possible.
It is what it is.
Leave it alone or it is a long and tangled road you seek.
I make my house payment off of long and tangled roads.
Doc
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