shocked wife

[Alexis]

My wife knows about my interracial fantasy and has for a number of years. I would love to see her with a black guy and she does enjoy the fantasy of it, but has said that she would never actually do it. She and I often watch interracial porn, and she does indulge me with "I bet you wish that was me getting fucked" while we watch.

I have resigned myself with the fact that she will never do it, but she does have fun with it. She understands my wanting her to try "it", but I LOVE my wife and don't want to force her into something she does not want to actually do.

You should probably sort out your personal feelings before letting him know that you know. Eventually you should let him know, and how you feel about it. Good luck.

Sounds like a great arrangement. If I found out this was all fantasy to my husband, I think I could handle that.

 

[Alexis]

Alexis dear, you should be more concerned with the lack of communication you and your husband have for it seems that this is the true source of your problem -and eventually, both your problems. Get over your state of shock already and get to know eachother again. Life is what you make it.

Wish you all the best.

I don't think lack of communication is the problem. The only real fact I have is that he is looking at this site. True, he hasn't told me, but I don't think it's a communication problem if a husband doesnt tell a wife "hey hun I'm looking at porno". You do have a point about getting to know each other. I guess I'm just afraid of what I might get to know.

 

[Alexis]

Will,

A special thanks to you for all the comments and all the help.

Thank you!!!

 

[Alexis]

I have been thinking about this all weekend. I think what laura said has really seemed to me to ring true. He hasn't said anything to me about including me in this, and could just be building up fantasies. I don't think fantasies hurt a thing. I was probably lucky to find out about this in case he ever does say anything to me about it. Then I will be prepaired with a reply to him ( which I have ABSOLUTELY NO idea what it would be). Until he says anything though, I think the best thing for me to do is say nothing.

I still would like to hear anything you guys think would be helpful to me. Thanks.

 

[rhino]

Let sleeping dogs lie.

 

[iraddicted]

Is everyone here retarded? Can't you see that this whole thing was a setup by "Alexis"? From the "initial surprise" of finding out that "her husband" was looking at this site, to the inevitable subsequent revelation that "she" is enamored by black meat and is "shocked" that her "husband" is into this type of stuff. And that "she" is torn about whether or not to tell "him" that "she" is turned on by the whole idea.

Is everyone so wrapped up it this stuff that they can't smell bullshit? There's no telling how many people on this board were hanging on every word posted by "Alexis"...just waiting for the next post. And, no...I'm not "Alexis". I'm just a guy with a brand new bullshit detector that was going crazy from post 1.

 

[iraddicted]

And the beat goes on...

 

[iraddicted]

Oh, and I believe you forgot some zeroes after the 4 or 5. A lot of people are into the fantasy aspect of this stuff. The reality aspect...not so much. Personally, I think it's fine either way. To each his or her own. I called bullshit because it appeared as though everyone was being completely sucked in by this poster's posts, and couldn't see that they are, in all probability, bogus. I hate being taken. Even if it is on a message board. If I walk in, knowing it's a fantasy, then I'm cool. It's not unlike the chatroom. I really don't BELIEVE that I'm talking to some 18 year old Jamaican boy with a 12 inch cock, or a 38 year old MWF who's chatting about an experience she just had with 4 brothers at a nightclub while her husband was at home taking care of her black kids. Most people know than 95% of people in the chatroom are fake... Or do they?

 

[Alexis]

Is everyone here retarded? Can't you see that this whole thing was a setup by "Alexis"? From the "initial surprise" of finding out that "her husband" was looking at this site, to the inevitable subsequent revelation that "she" is enamored by black meat and is "shocked" that her "husband" is into this type of stuff. And that "she" is torn about whether or not to tell "him" that "she" is turned on by the whole idea.

Is everyone so wrapped up it this stuff that they can't smell bullshit? There's no telling how many people on this board were hanging on every word posted by "Alexis"...just waiting for the next post. And, no...I'm not "Alexis". I'm just a guy with a brand new bullshit detector that was going crazy from post 1.

I'm trying to figure out where you came up with the idea that I said that I was "enamored by black meat" or that I am "turned on by the whole idea". If you want to call me a liar, that's fine, but please say that I'm lying about something I actually said, not something you dreamed up.

 

[cum2please]

please excuse my tardiness...

alexis:

greetings!

you should feel glad that you stumbled upon this site for your own benefits sake.

so it seems your husband, like myself, and many others worldwide, are aroused by the thoughts, images, and stories concerning interracial sex. I don't know what your personal upbringing, religious/ family background, or attitude towards interracial sex/ relationships are, but I can tell you that it can be a beautiful eye opening experience in my opinion. im not implying you should participate in the lifestyle or even try it once, but a good way for this site to benefit both you and your husband would be to at least conversate about it.
If you are having trouble bringing the subject up, get creative. you don't have to actually come right out and say that you know he's been visiting porn sites wanking and fantasizing and hound him on what his true intensions are on darkcavern. remember, first, you are a woman, and for your hubby YOU have all the goodies he needs, loves and adores, so ahead and go out and purchase some new sexy thongs, and a revealing out fit or sleepwear, and surprise him. be waiting for him just as he's about to come home thinking he's about to arrive to the same hum drum daily routine and when he opens the door attack him right away with your sexual prowess! you will be adorned in your new sexy underwear and he's gonna be shocked and probably wonder in the back of his mind what has gotten into you, but he will be receptive and more than likely be sporting wood, and if he's not then keep your hands all over him. grab him by his clothes and cling him close to your bosom, kiss him seductively, and in your naughty girl tone of voice ask him if he would like to taste a piece of your angel food cake. ask him if he likes how sticky, creamy, and sweet your icing is ( and maybe you can start touching yourself or stick in a finger and taste how good it is for yourself seductively ). absolutely do not let him overpower you, don't allow him to speak unless you'v asked a question first. tell him now you are about to take over and that you are in command of his fantasies and desires for the rest of the evening. look into his eyes and tell him that there was something you wanted to talk about, but just didn't know how to ask. he'll have a puzzled look on his face and won't say a word because by this time, he'll be spellbound (and secretly he likes the idea of you taking control and initiating sex!)
unbuckle his pants, and before you perform fellatio ask him if he likes the way his member feels inside your hot mouth, ask him if he likes it when he cums and you swallow. hopefully by this time you're triggering yes reponses from him. while maintaining eye contact on your knees, advise him that you are still his sweet, loving, innocent wife but for the remainder of the evening you want him to call you sexxy lexxi (or some other made up name) from the other side of town and that you wish to be his personal slut. as you are are sucking him, describe to him how wet you are getting. ad lib a story about how you wished you had 2 dix so you could feel one pounding you from behind while you sucked on his juicy cock, and ask him how he would feel about it if the situation ever occurred. believe me, by this time you will have his wholehearted attention and will not lie to you because his mind will be racing at lightspeed. while your sucking, stop, take his member out of your mouth and start slapping and rubbing it all over your lips and face, and ask him if he could handle the thought of another man tasting your cookie, cutting your cake, ect. next, straddle ontop of him and while you're bouncing up and down on him, ask him if he could handle seeing you sucking another man while he was inside you.
by this time he will have played up to what you have layed out before him and will probably have called you all kinds of nasty sluts, bitches, and or cum dump whores, but it will be in a playful manner, and he'll be grinning from ear to ear. I don't know how your happy endings go in your household, but if you don't swallow, make a sacrifice and swallow, stick your finger up his ass when he's about to cum or something to make the rendevous special.
and then, afterward, when you are lounging in the afterglow, you tell him you wanted to create the fantasy for him so you can talk openly about his sexuality, your sexuality, and decypher between what parts of the fantasy will remain a fantasy and what parts of the fantasy he would like to make a reality. give him a blanket of comfort and explain that no matter what you still love him and ask him to be honest and not to give you the aswers that he thinks you want to hear. weigh in the ins /outs, do/donts, pros & cons, and then when he asks how or what made you so curiously freaky, surprise him with the truth, and say, "a reply post I read in darkcavern."

 

[tom here]

please excuse my tardiness...

ARGH!!!

Paragraphs damnit! PAR-A-GRAPHS!!!!!!!!!

:flash: What ?,.......something like this you mean, at least I think so, still can't quite get rid of the spots in front of my eyes.

Some capital letters at the start of the sentences might also have helped a bit.

Actually, it turns out to be quite a bodice ripper !, and to give him his due, he did only have one i instead of I, and that's a very rare achievement.

Perhaps as he is an artist, he is more at home with a paintbrush, however he did get his work noticed !.

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Originally posted by cum2please as message number 60

Alexis:

Greetings!

You should feel glad that you stumbled upon this site for your own benefits sake.

So it seems your husband, like myself, and many others worldwide, are aroused by the thoughts, images, and stories concerning interracial sex. I don't know what your personal upbringing, religious/ family background, or attitude towards interracial sex/ relationships are, but I can tell you that it can be a beautiful eye opening experience in my opinion.

Im not implying you should participate in the lifestyle or even try it once, but a good way for this site to benefit both you and your husband would be to at least conversate about it.

If you are having trouble bringing the subject up, get creative. you don't have to actually come right out and say that you know he's been visiting porn sites wanking and fantasizing and hound him on what his true intensions are on darkcavern. remember, first, you are a woman, and for your hubby YOU have all the goodies he needs, loves and adores, so go ahead and go out and purchase some new sexy thongs, and a revealing out fit or sleepwear, and surprise him.

Be waiting for him just as he's about to come home thinking he's about to arrive to the same hum drum daily routine and when he opens the door attack him right away with your sexual prowess!. You will be adorned in your new sexy underwear and he's gonna be shocked and probably wonder in the back of his mind what has gotten into you, but he will be receptive and more than likely be sporting wood, and if he's not then keep your hands all over him.

Grab him by his clothes and cling him close to your bosom, kiss him seductively, and in your naughty girl tone of voice ask him if he would like to taste a piece of your angel food cake. Ask him if he likes how sticky, creamy, and sweet your icing is ( and maybe you can start touching yourself or stick in a finger and taste how good it is for yourself seductively ).

Absolutely do not let him overpower you, don't allow him to speak unless you'v asked a question first. Tell him now you are about to take over and that you are in command of his fantasies and desires for the rest of the evening. Look into his eyes and tell him that there was something you wanted to talk about, but just didn't know how to ask. he'll have a puzzled look on his face and won't say a word because by this time, he'll be spellbound (and secretly he likes the idea of you taking control and initiating sex!)

Unbuckle his pants, and before you perform fellatio ask him if he likes the way his member feels inside your hot mouth, ask him if he likes it when he cums and you swallow. Hopefully by this time you're triggering yes reponses from him. While maintaining eye contact on your knees, advise him that you are still his sweet, loving, innocent wife but for the remainder of the evening you want him to call you sexxy lexxi (or some other made up name) from the other side of town and that you wish to be his personal slut.

As you are are sucking him, describe to him how wet you are getting. Ad lib a story about how you wished you had 2 dix so you could feel one pounding you from behind while you sucked on his juicy cock, and ask him how he would feel about it if the situation ever occurred.

Believe me, by this time you will have his wholehearted attention and will not lie to you because his mind will be racing at lightspeed. While your sucking, stop, take his member out of your mouth and start slapping and rubbing it all over your lips and face, and ask him if he could handle the thought of another man tasting your cookie, cutting your cake, ect.

Next, straddle ontop of him and while you're bouncing up and down on him, ask him if he could handle seeing you sucking another man while he was inside you. By this time he will have played up to what you have layed out before him and will probably have called you all kinds of nasty sluts, bitches, and or cum dump whores, but it will be in a playful manner, and he'll be grinning from ear to ear.

I don't know how your happy endings go in your household, but if you don't swallow, make a sacrifice and swallow, stick your finger up his ass when he's about to cum or something to make the rendevous special.

And then, afterward, when you are lounging in the afterglow, you tell him you wanted to create the fantasy for him so you can talk openly about his sexuality, your sexuality, and decypher between what parts of the fantasy will remain a fantasy and what parts of the fantasy he would like to make a reality.

Give him a blanket of comfort and explain that no matter what you still love him and ask him to be honest and not to give you the aswers that he thinks you want to hear. weigh in the ins /outs, do/donts, pros & cons, and then when he asks how or what made you so curiously freaky, surprise him with the truth, and say, "a reply post I read in darkcavern," ( after it had been reformatted, that is ).

 

[cum2please]

I find it very odd that the only positive feedback concerning my post was from tom. seeing how he's in the uk, I bet he speaks good english!
unfortunately, for will & eve, and the remainder of those of you reading at home infront of your computer, I don't have a pc, so I visit this site from my rinky-dink moto mq9c. I can't add any attatchments from the fone or any have the other amenities like auto capitlization, or paragraph style, so oh well. guess you have to read inbetween the lines to fathom the words confined within my compositions.

*sigh*

in the end the message remains the same, u get my drift of the gyst of what im babblin bout?

eye new jew wood!

alexis:

so wassup? have you given my idea any thought?
obviously you don't have to follow the directions word for
word, but improvise a bit.

find the answers to your questions concerning his personal
out fantasies are by creating one for him.

be the best "slut" you can be one time and the two of you
will see how exciting roleplaying fantasies can be, but
its the conversation awfterwards is what's most important.
at least that way no one will be upset and your lines of
communication will be open for the expression of feelings
with one another.

im guessing,

and this is my own preconceived notion,

based on little intellegence and mostly instinct,

but I would suffice to say that your hubby likes the idea of

you engaging in some promiscuous activites

(whether his preference is with or without him or
someone else, is what you're trying to find out)

so be HIS personal slut first, or at least play it up to him.

remember, you have pussy power over him, and even when

you are sucking him submissively on your knees, you still

have control over him by playing with his joystick!

let me know how everything goes & good luck!

 

[MichaelWills]

Real? Doesn't matter

Other than reading these threads for the erotic value, it has become somewhat of a game to see how long it takes before the "non-reality" of a thread kicks in. While it is frustrating to a point to realize that one took the time to make what we felt were legitimate suggestions on dealing with a real problem--it became obvious as this thread continued that the poster who asked the question wasn't really interested in answers--or refused to hear what was being said.

So toward the end the bells started clanging--so to the poster, congrats for pulling us in--usually we pick up on it quicker--so you win! It was an interesting thread nonetheless.

Frankly I cannot imagine any woman upon discovering her husband on a website that she felt was "shocking" going in to post in it, and then stay quiet about it. Every woman that I know would go in and check out the site, and then when hubby came home from work would be standing by the computer with the screen up, hands on the hips, asking, "Now baby just what in the hell is this?"

If she is intrigued with the idea and it sparks some curiosity she might bring it up in a slightly different manner, but she wouldn't brood on it. In most marriages that would be something that would get addressed rather quickly. Any real marriage that would avoid communicating and confronting a visit to a "shocking" website has more problems than just surfing porn sites.

It's all good. It's all part of the online forum experience. So if Alexis is a 30 year old nerd living in his Mom's basement--congrats for pulling it off this far.

They say that one reason that murderers are caught by homicide detectives is that once they commit the crime then everything they do from that point on has to be done with no mistakes--and as humans no one is perfect. Eventually they slip up. So it is with the posers on here--if they talk long enough they give themselves away.

I come to this side of DC for amusement. (And incidentally we have only had two real hookups from our ad on the pay side of DC). I always enjoy when a guy on the forums side talks about hooking up, asks for photos, and when we explain that there are photos, an ad, and more on the pay side of DC, we are greeted with a stone silence.

 

[Alexis]

Other than reading these threads for the erotic value, it has become somewhat of a game to see how long it takes before the "non-reality" of a thread kicks in. While it is frustrating to a point to realize that one took the time to make what we felt were legitimate suggestions on dealing with a real problem--it became obvious as this thread continued that the poster who asked the question wasn't really interested in answers--or refused to hear what was being said.

So toward the end the bells started clanging--so to the poster, congrats for pulling us in--usually we pick up on it quicker--so you win! It was an interesting thread nonetheless.

Frankly I cannot imagine any woman upon discovering her husband on a website that she felt was "shocking" going in to post in it, and then stay quiet about it. Every woman that I know would go in and check out the site, and then when hubby came home from work would be standing by the computer with the screen up, hands on the hips, asking, "Now baby just what in the hell is this?"

If she is intrigued with the idea and it sparks some curiosity she might bring it up in a slightly different manner, but she wouldn't brood on it. In most marriages that would be something that would get addressed rather quickly. Any real marriage that would avoid communicating and confronting a visit to a "shocking" website has more problems than just surfing porn sites.

It's all good. It's all part of the online forum experience. So if Alexis is a 30 year old nerd living in his Mom's basement--congrats for pulling it off this far.

They say that one reason that murderers are caught by homicide detectives is that once they commit the crime then everything they do from that point on has to be done with no mistakes--and as humans no one is perfect. Eventually they slip up. So it is with the posers on here--if they talk long enough they give themselves away.

I come to this side of DC for amusement. (And incidentally we have only had two real hookups from our ad on the pay side of DC). I always enjoy when a guy on the forums side talks about hooking up, asks for photos, and when we explain that there are photos, an ad, and more on the pay side of DC, we are greeted with a stone silence.

I guess there are some people who come here to write fake stuff, and others who come here trying to smell out those fakers. Sounds like a lot of wasted time to me.

I guess no one here really reads the posts, they just skim them. You seem to be one. Not that it really matters, but I'd just like to say that I have been 100% honest here.

Let me explain. I'm not a prude. Although my husband is the only one I've had sex with, that's because we started dating very early, fell in love and got married. If I wouldn't have met him, I may have had sex with a lot of guys before I got married. Who knows?

The point is though, I did get married. To me that means one thing. An EXCLUSIVE relationship with one man. If not, why bother getting married at all?

My SHOCK as expressed in this thread is in this lifestyle. I never thought a guy could WANT his wife to be with other men. My "brooding" over finding this on his computer, is in effect that if he has thoughts like this, I'm scared to find that out I think.

So, I am not sure what his interest here is, but all my posts here are legitimate. Don't believe it? I guess you don't have to. Have a good one.

 

[Alexis]

alexis:

greetings!

you should feel glad that you stumbled upon this site for your own benefits sake.

so it seems your husband, like myself, and many others worldwide, are aroused by the thoughts, images, and stories concerning interracial sex. I don't know what your personal upbringing, religious/ family background, or attitude towards interracial sex/ relationships are, but I can tell you that it can be a beautiful eye opening experience in my opinion. im not implying you should participate in the lifestyle or even try it once, but a good way for this site to benefit both you and your husband would be to at least conversate about it.
If you are having trouble bringing the subject up, get creative. you don't have to actually come right out and say that you know he's been visiting porn sites wanking and fantasizing and hound him on what his true intensions are on darkcavern. remember, first, you are a woman, and for your hubby YOU have all the goodies he needs, loves and adores, so ahead and go out and purchase some new sexy thongs, and a revealing out fit or sleepwear, and surprise him. be waiting for him just as he's about to come home thinking he's about to arrive to the same hum drum daily routine and when he opens the door attack him right away with your sexual prowess! you will be adorned in your new sexy underwear and he's gonna be shocked and probably wonder in the back of his mind what has gotten into you, but he will be receptive and more than likely be sporting wood, and if he's not then keep your hands all over him. grab him by his clothes and cling him close to your bosom, kiss him seductively, and in your naughty girl tone of voice ask him if he would like to taste a piece of your angel food cake. ask him if he likes how sticky, creamy, and sweet your icing is ( and maybe you can start touching yourself or stick in a finger and taste how good it is for yourself seductively ). absolutely do not let him overpower you, don't allow him to speak unless you'v asked a question first. tell him now you are about to take over and that you are in command of his fantasies and desires for the rest of the evening. look into his eyes and tell him that there was something you wanted to talk about, but just didn't know how to ask. he'll have a puzzled look on his face and won't say a word because by this time, he'll be spellbound (and secretly he likes the idea of you taking control and initiating sex!)
unbuckle his pants, and before you perform fellatio ask him if he likes the way his member feels inside your hot mouth, ask him if he likes it when he cums and you swallow. hopefully by this time you're triggering yes reponses from him. while maintaining eye contact on your knees, advise him that you are still his sweet, loving, innocent wife but for the remainder of the evening you want him to call you sexxy lexxi (or some other made up name) from the other side of town and that you wish to be his personal slut. as you are are sucking him, describe to him how wet you are getting. ad lib a story about how you wished you had 2 dix so you could feel one pounding you from behind while you sucked on his juicy cock, and ask him how he would feel about it if the situation ever occurred. believe me, by this time you will have his wholehearted attention and will not lie to you because his mind will be racing at lightspeed. while your sucking, stop, take his member out of your mouth and start slapping and rubbing it all over your lips and face, and ask him if he could handle the thought of another man tasting your cookie, cutting your cake, ect. next, straddle ontop of him and while you're bouncing up and down on him, ask him if he could handle seeing you sucking another man while he was inside you.
by this time he will have played up to what you have layed out before him and will probably have called you all kinds of nasty sluts, bitches, and or cum dump whores, but it will be in a playful manner, and he'll be grinning from ear to ear. I don't know how your happy endings go in your household, but if you don't swallow, make a sacrifice and swallow, stick your finger up his ass when he's about to cum or something to make the rendevous special.
and then, afterward, when you are lounging in the afterglow, you tell him you wanted to create the fantasy for him so you can talk openly about his sexuality, your sexuality, and decypher between what parts of the fantasy will remain a fantasy and what parts of the fantasy he would like to make a reality. give him a blanket of comfort and explain that no matter what you still love him and ask him to be honest and not to give you the aswers that he thinks you want to hear. weigh in the ins /outs, do/donts, pros & cons, and then when he asks how or what made you so curiously freaky, surprise him with the truth, and say, "a reply post I read in darkcavern."

Thanks for taking the time to write all this. No offense, but it's a little "tongue in cheek" for me. I am definitely not the girl described in this scenario.

 

[billy-ray]

Still contemplating your next move?

I can well imagine you're proud of the fact you've been faithful and that your husband has been the only man to ever penetrate your vagina. There are countless couples that are completely satisfied with their monogamous relationships and there's no reason you shouldn't be, either. From a moral stand point, you're a good girl. But honestly Sweetie, how's that working for you?

You have no clue what's going on in his mind (in regard to the visiting of this site). You're worried, insecure and suspicious of him. I can't imagine sex has gotten any better since your discovery -for either of you. Shit. Talk to him. Communicate your feelings and fears. Listen to his.
And please tell me how you expect to get to know someone without communicating?

The ball's on your side of the court, Alexis.

 

[lewis]

The question is, does it scare you that you've found he is interested in this, or do you have some other feeling about it?

...exactly,,,,Alexis, I think you're looking for some kind of objection to your husband;s interest in here. THAT IS NOT OUR JOB, ITS YOURS, BUT HAVE AN OPEN MIND BEFORE YOU USE SOMEONE ELSE'S VALUE/BELIEVES TO COME TO A DECISION. HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT BLACK MEN, I HAD BEEN ATTRACTED TO WHITE WOMEN FOR A LONG TIME BEFORE I ACTED ON IT.
There are a lot of opinions and views here, but reguardless of the opinions, all of us love the interracial life style.:clap:

 

[lewis]

still contemplating your next move?

I can well imagine you're proud of the fact you've been faithful and that your husband has been the only man to ever penetrate your vagina. There are countless couples that are completely satisfied with their monogamous relationships and there's no reason you shouldn't be, either. From a moral stand point, you're a good girl. But honestly sweetie, how's that working for you?

You have no clue what's going on in his mind (in regard to the visiting of this site). You're worried, insecure and suspicious of him. I can't imagine sex has gotten any better since your discovery -for either of you. Shit. Talk to him. Communicate your feelings and fears. Listen to his.
And please tell me how you expect to get to know someone without communicating?

The ball's on your side of the court, alexis.

dam!..billy-ray, scared a you.

 

[Alexis]

Still contemplating your next move?

I can well imagine you're proud of the fact you've been faithful and that your husband has been the only man to ever penetrate your vagina. There are countless couples that are completely satisfied with their monogamous relationships and there's no reason you shouldn't be, either. From a moral stand point, you're a good girl. But honestly Sweetie, how's that working for you?

You have no clue what's going on in his mind (in regard to the visiting of this site). You're worried, insecure and suspicious of him. I can't imagine sex has gotten any better since your discovery -for either of you. Shit. Talk to him. Communicate your feelings and fears. Listen to his.
And please tell me how you expect to get to know someone without communicating?

The ball's on your side of the court, Alexis.

After this weekend, this post pretty much hits the nail on the head. We had a wonderful Valentine's Day weekend. Everything went great except for one thing. I couldn't get all of this completely out of my head.

All the things you mention in the first paragraph are all working out great for me. The question is, how are they working out for my husband?

I was all set to just ignore this situation and hope it will go away. I was afraid of opening Pandora's box. I see now that that won't work. It is only fair to both of us for me to say something, and the sooner the better.

Thanks to all of you for your insights. I just hope I'm doing the right thing.

 

[ottawareacpl]

Good luck.

I know when I broached the subject with my wife, it was not a pleasant experience, however your situation is a bit reversed. Discuss his fantasy with him. Do not confront him if you can help it. If he gets defensive, point the fact out to him, then ask him to talk to you when he feels he can.

Just do not let this adversely affect your marriage, if you can help it.

 

[susan]

Seems this is turning into a Soap Opera :lame:

 

[Alexis]

Good luck.

I know when I broached the subject with my wife, it was not a pleasant experience, however your situation is a bit reversed. Discuss his fantasy with him. Do not confront him if you can help it. If he gets defensive, point the fact out to him, then ask him to talk to you when he feels he can.

Just do not let this adversely affect your marriage, if you can help it.

I think the effect it has on our marriage will depend on what his interests are.

 

[Alexis]

Seems this is turning into a Soap Opera :lame:

Regardless of what it seems like, this is my life. As far as your LAME comment, I am not here to provide tittilation to people. There are plenty of threads here for that.