Sorry Harry. i meant it was positive news. I didn't mean to mislead.
The doctor was pretty clear it wasn't from frustration. She gave us a strong lean to physical reasoning.
Also, I'm happy with the current situation. Took a little while to get to that place but Im there now. Odd peace with everything.
Dr. S mentioned a couple of drugs but i cant remember what they were. She wants to wait on them till she is sure nothing else will work. We are both on board with that. Especially me.
Bobby Jones: Thank you for the complete description of your Dr. Visit and conversation with Sue. That helps a lot and explain some of where you are coming from.
Above all, I am ecstatic that you were NOT diagnosed with Prostate cancer. I've been there and it's very scary. I had wonderful care and am fine now with most of my function restored.
I assume you to be 30 Years of age (or less) and Sue a little younger than you, based on what you have said in your posts.
There are still some nagging questions for me as to why as a young man you are so ‘bent’ on your wife ‘fucking’ other men even to the ‘exclusion' of you. You now give your potential erect size as 4”. That puts you ‘statistically’ in the company of a lot of men. Many of them married to wives that are happy with their sex life at home. Even you quote Sue as saying she “likes sex with you” and “does not want to exclude you from her sex life”. "I love you more than anything and I'm not going to lose you because you think you are to manly do take a drug like that. I don't care if we ever have sex again. Or even with other guys for me. I would rather have you. That is the bottom line. You are more important” .... “Well sex is out for now. Till they get a solution. I'm sorry and if you want me to stop what Im doing I will.” No never. I want you to be happy.
“Ok, so when you said you would be ok with us never having sex again if that is what I wanted right.” Yes. ..... “So then only my boyfriend or lovers would take me like that.” Yes
Now you are diagnosed with abnormally high Testosterone. On a hormonal level, Your sex drive and virility should be high enough that you would be wanting as much sex as you could get. However you practically insist that your wife should find sexual 'happiness’ with other men.
“I want that for you too.” Then the only way to make me happy is for you to be happy. So please don't stop. I also want you to know that if I can't ever get hard again that I want you to keep doing this. You shouldn't have to stop having sex if I can't.
She even said that she wants to have your children, but you appear to believe that she would be more “turned on” if it were another man’s baby.
I am surprised that you did not take the opportunity, while Sue was being so open with you, and willing to stop having sex with her boyfriends, that you didn’t request that you be present with them (or at least have Sue invite one or more to have sex at your home where you could see and be part of it). This is what you were telling us in the beginning, that it frustrated you that she would not even reveal the ‘details’ to you. Now when the opportunity is ‘open’ you don’t even ask.
Is there something you are not telling us that causes you to prefer that other men fuck your wife. Are you seriously overweight? Do you have Diabetes? Do you just think of yourself as a “wimp” of a man? Maybe you should read the link that ‘Custer’ provides in another post: http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/18500-confused-wife-but-idea-makes-me-superrr-hottt-4.html!
You intimate that Sue told the doctor (a female) that she was having sex with other men with your knowledge. How actually did she tell the Dr. And what was the Dr.’s response?
Bobby, Don’t discount the power of the mind. I assure you that if you concentrated on it, you could give your wife all the fine children she wants.
Lastly, The drug of choice for lowering Testosterone, is LUPRON. There are ‘generic’s’ that will do the same. I personally was on LUPRON for 6 months. Since prostate cancer will ‘live’ on Testosterone, Lupron takes away it’s food. After 6 months I went off Lupron and my Testosterone level slowly went back to normal, and my desire for sex returned. However my Urologist prescribed TRI-MIX for me which gives me a good firm and large erection for 1-2 hours. Actually larger than before my cancer treatment. Note: if my assumption of your age is correct, I am 2-3 times your age, and our sex live, me and my wife, is better now than ever in our 15 year marriage. If you want to know more about ‘TRI-MIX’ I can tell you.
Cheers, and the best to you and Sue. I don’t want to be judgmental, just don’t understand a man just giving his wife up to other men without even requesting the privilege of your presence.
Harry