While I am one to be respectful of everyone's view point, I am also the type to be very expressive when it can be done in a respective manner. Many of us that express our opinions and viewpoints come from a wide range of experiences levels, generations and cultures. I have read were some of us that post our views have had dominate, submissive, alpha, beta, cuckold and even denial experiences. You do need to sit back and realize that each of us that express our views make those expression based on our own past and what we think we may have gleamed from your posting through out the years more specifically on the post from this year leading up to Paul joining your relationship in the manner in which has has.
As to what I and or other may think Sue would like verse dislike is all about our individual experience and what we may have felt was conveyed in reading your post on this thread. As we have not spoken to, nor have we seen any published post by Sue's expressing her view point beyond what you have shared with us on the forum respectively, and considering we have followed your evolution over the years many of us may jump to conclusions which are not consistent with Sue's or your actual perspective and experiences. Inference by many us is not always a good thing although I am sure many of us enjoy various aspects if not all of your extended experiences. Some out there may see it has extreme while other may see it has mild or even typical in some cases depending on the aspect of the lifestyle we and Sue are exploring.
How we each interrupt denial (short term, longer term and/or even the level/type of denial) is a matter of what works for each couple within there on respective scenario. There are many of us that will try to read much more into your situation than you may have expressed. As per your prior post, you have on more then one occasion made it clear that you and Sue have both have previously spoken in-depth about her desire to have a deeper connection with with another man sexually verses having the multiple sex only type men. You also indicated that you wanted to become more beta sexually with Sue and that you both wanted her to have an alpha type man and for her to accomplish the level of connection in which she desires, would even prefer to have with an alpha man, you had both agreed that she would be able to extended a level of exclusive privilege (bare-fluid bonding) to the alpha in an effort to enhance the level of connection that Sue may develop with a boy-friend, lover, her new alpha. Yes while this is a type and level of denial, it is a level of denial in which you also have expressed that you both desire as part of you becoming more of the beta man within the relationship, bare intercourse is truly reserved for alpha men moving forward within your scenario. While this maybe short term, long term or even to become part of your norm within the relationship, this is something that only you and Sue will know once the time is right and after you both have had an opportunity to experience it. While you and Sue will first begin with condoms for the beta and bare for the alpha, it does sound as if at some point based on your prior post that it is possible that the alpha could in time become exclusive when it comes intercourse and as the beta you may eventually no longer have the privilege of intercourse even with a condom on. Strictly based on some of your prior post, it sounds to me that you both would enjoy the bond that she could develop with Paul once he is the only one having her bare and leaving only his sperm inside of her.
Peak is correct when he said "Leaving it as you have may make Paul believe you are the only one with 'kinky' desires and that you are still running things, including him in an indirect way. He deserves to know just how much Sue wants all this and that she is the one directing pace and change at the moment." You have already seen how much more intense Sue and Paul were after the initial omission, just imagine what it would be like if Paul knew that Sue was the one directing the change and pace at this stage. At some point for you to fully accept your beta desires and reality, you and Sue will need to be much more open with Paul about your mutual desires and needs as a couple along with were he fits into it all.