A recent incident involving my wife
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Things are slow, largely because Hakkim is busy. He said he will have more time in April as his key project just got completed 2 days ago
I chatted with him last week for 30 min. I told him that I am seeing positive changes in her and would like him to continue what he is doing. He wasn’t too pleased with me though, he thinks I am not a strong man and he told me bluntly that he can’t trust me. He told me that she listens 10 times more to him than to me.
I thought it was a perfect time to tell him that I want him to be the man for her and I did that. I told him that I know my weakness and I am the reason she is the way she is right now but I trust him fully to come and change things.
He took a pause and said “I will do it but I need you to listen to me as well and build his trust”. I told him 100%
I chatted with him last week for 30 min. I told him that I am seeing positive changes in her and would like him to continue what he is doing. He wasn’t too pleased with me though, he thinks I am not a strong man and he told me bluntly that he can’t trust me. He told me that she listens 10 times more to him than to me.
I thought it was a perfect time to tell him that I want him to be the man for her and I did that. I told him that I know my weakness and I am the reason she is the way she is right now but I trust him fully to come and change things.
He took a pause and said “I will do it but I need you to listen to me as well and build his trust”. I told him 100%
You should have your wife be in contact with him every day. She should text him when she wakes up and just before going to bed each day. He has to know that she is ready for the next step. Even as busy as he is, he will take time to reply to her, I'm sure. It's up to you to get this moving. You can't wait for him to take the next step.
Slow but good progress and a real test for her now. He has asked me if she has any gf who is similar to her and is rubbing her personality on my wife and I said YES, it’s her best friend Sharon. Sharon has been a big influence on her, she is exactly like my wife, loud, rebellious, unkempt. None of her bf stayed more than 6 months with her
Hakkim called my wife on Saturday and asked the same question but in a different way. She finally admitted Sharon. Now Hakkim has asked her to stop talking to replying to Sharon. I know they are besties and I am very curious to know what she does now
Hakkim called my wife on Saturday and asked the same question but in a different way. She finally admitted Sharon. Now Hakkim has asked her to stop talking to replying to Sharon. I know they are besties and I am very curious to know what she does now
Wow. This has clearly gone way past the line of client relationship and he is taking dominant control of her on a very personal level. Ordering her to stop speaking with a friend is a very bold move. Interested to see how she responds. The natural response would be "you're way out of line and we're going to work with a new agent". If she doesn't take that route, it confirms she is into the idea of being submissive to him and you're well on your way!MKerr said:
Up until now I don't believe you've shared much about your wife and her behavior other than she doesn't bother to dress up, and is picky about easy to change details when house shopping. How is she and how has she changed since meeting Sharon? How does she treat you? How would you describe her?
I will share more about my wife in a bit. It isn’t right that Sharon changed her, both are friends for long time and are part of same fabric. I always wished she stay away from Sharon but my wife never listened to me and got very angry when I suggested her.
Now Hakkim has told her the same. Let’s see what happens
Now Hakkim has told her the same. Let’s see what happens
So her is an update from yesterday when Hakkim asked her to cut her ties with Sharon. For context, my wife and Sharon chat at least 2-3 times in a day and exchange about 15-20 texts everyday
Sharon texted her a few times asking about finalizing plans for next Saturday. I think they planned to go to a show. My wife didn’t respond for 2-3 hours and later sent her a text that she may have to visit her aunt and hence isn’t available this Saturday
Sharon texted her a few times asking about finalizing plans for next Saturday. I think they planned to go to a show. My wife didn’t respond for 2-3 hours and later sent her a text that she may have to visit her aunt and hence isn’t available this Saturday
MKerr said:
Yeah that is amazing. It sounds like she craves to submit and be controlled but only to a man she sees as worthy. I've experienced something similar with my wife. She is very obedient when other men boss her around but shrugs it off, laughs, or ignores me when I try. This is a very exciting development, it sounds like he has asserted his dominance and she has submitted. He is in control of her now. If she cuts off her best friend that quickly, just imagine what she'll do when he decides she is no longer permitted to fuck you...
It’s a surprise to me, albeit a pleasant one. I never thought she will do easily be listening to him. She never did that with any other guy.
I think it was the first meeting. She was wearing a very casual crumbled shorts in that meeting. I actually asked her to change and she said no need as it’s just a house viewing. She had flip flops. As soon as Hakkim saw her, his first comment was
“Are you guys really serious of house purchase?”
I said, yes. He looked at her and said “Ok, if you say so”
Within 2-3 min, he told her to pay attention to the house (she was texting).
Shortly, he scolded her when she started talking about the appliances and paint in the kitchen. She said “sorry”
At the end, he looked at her and told that “house buying is not a game and is only for people who are serious”
He got her after that meeting
I think it was the first meeting. She was wearing a very casual crumbled shorts in that meeting. I actually asked her to change and she said no need as it’s just a house viewing. She had flip flops. As soon as Hakkim saw her, his first comment was
“Are you guys really serious of house purchase?”
I said, yes. He looked at her and said “Ok, if you say so”
Within 2-3 min, he told her to pay attention to the house (she was texting).
Shortly, he scolded her when she started talking about the appliances and paint in the kitchen. She said “sorry”
At the end, he looked at her and told that “house buying is not a game and is only for people who are serious”
He got her after that meeting
