Alexis said:I do have some big news about my situation, but another time maybe. I came here to post my news, but now I think I'll just ask a question for now instead.
It's not just my thread, but I've seen this in lots of others as well. OK, the question is, why do so many people here try so hard to be the one to say "AH HA, FAKE THREAD!!! I KNEW IT!!! BECAUSE OF THIS AND THAT, BECAUSE OF THAT AND THIS, IT'S GOT TO BE FAKE!!!
Being fairly new here, I'd really like to know. Are there a lot of people who post lies? Is there some kind of prize for finding the most "fake threads"? Is it the old "class clown" mentality, trying to get a laugh at someone else's expense?
Everything I've said here is true, and I thought at a site like this people would at least believe me. Have I acted logically over all this? I don't think so. Have I handled this in the best way or the way most people would have? Probably not. Have I lied about anything? Yes. Sort of. I sign in as Alexis, which is not my real name. Ah, but I've already mentioned that. I was even truthful about my phony name!
Oh well, I guess I just don't get why so many people here have so many doubts.
I've said my piece.
I think you only need to read some of the existing posts and you will get a sense of what people's fantasies/expectations involve. They run the gamut from the extreme (typically fantasists) to rather 'normal' thoughts or issues.
Perhaps you should not view this in terms of 'interracial' but in terms of a swinger lifestyle and research that, and then incorporate the idea of a black man in that scenario. My belief is that couples who do enjoy black men in their bedrooms is that they do exactly that, and do so as consensual and informed adults. Getting advice at this site will get you responses that are skewed to a more extreme degree, and you will get responses from some of us who haven't REALly any experience (myself included) beyond that of being at this site (your husband included).
Finally, I enjoy what this site has to offer and make no apologies about not changing my marriage forever because something makes me wet.