04.10.2013: "We have several trips planned for the summer including a get-away for us around July 4th and again in August."
Reading this, I had to believe along with you, that there were, ‘safeguards’ and a foreseeable “endpoint,” to this with Robert.
Then you wrote: 04.11.2013: She told me how wonderful she felt when she'd gone away with Frank, and how she felt that, "Being exclusive" with him beforehand, had really increased how connected she felt with him. She looked me straight in the face and said, "I want to feel that with Robert.”
Does this mean that she expects, not only to be “exclusive with Robert,” but to also ‘go with him on trip’s’ like she did with Frank?
When she said, last night:
SoonToBe said:
"She held my hand and asked me if I was serious about ‘letting her go with Robert."
It does seem to indicate that she expects it to include both!
Reading that, it sure “jumped out at me” because my first wife did that (while I was building a new house for us), and was busy most weekends, She went camping “with friends from work.” Later I found that the “friends from Work” was Charlie, Who she married after our divorce.
I am not implying that you face the same situation as I did, but I do advise you to get Sue’s promise that she will be going with you for the, “several trips planned for the summer, including a get-away for us around July 4th and again in August." instead of going with Robert.