STB,
From everything you have ever posted from the beginning I don't think there is a snowball's chance in hell that Sue set out to deceive you in any way. You know in your heart that your relationship is above that and that if Frank (or anyone else) asked her to lie to you, she wouldn't do it. If there is any blame it is Franks. It was his message to give clearly and he doesn't seem to have done that. I suspect that he may not have even done that deliberately. After all, he must know that if he ever gets caught out in something like that, Sue would drop him like a hot brick.
None of that really helps you I suspect, but it may make the decision a little cleaner. You either do or you don't agree to it.
I'm glad the issue of an explanation won't cloud it either, that would have been a shame and would have left the issue of how to resolve any similar issues in future up in the air as well.
For what it is worth, I think you should give in gracefully from a position of strenght. You could say that the issue meant you considered cancelling it all, but that you know that Sue loves you enough that one more day cannot possibly matter. It puts the shot across Frank's bow if he did have any thoughts that way. It shows Sue that you trust her and it leaves you looking the big guy in the meeting. Of course it also gives you what you secretly want too. A one-off extended cucky angst. Very special.
I don't think you need any special rules about who Sue should spend her time with before and after. That smacks of weakness. You should Trust Sue enough to be with you enough both to support you but mostly simply because she wants it that way.
As for the rings, that seems to be an issue in a lot of stories, but should have no bearing in reality. Its a good plot twist but in truth, it doesn't have any significance except in your head, and you seem not to really mind either way. I wouldn't be. Leave it to Sue's good judgement. She could always text ROFF or RON couldn't she!
From everything you have ever posted from the beginning I don't think there is a snowball's chance in hell that Sue set out to deceive you in any way. You know in your heart that your relationship is above that and that if Frank (or anyone else) asked her to lie to you, she wouldn't do it. If there is any blame it is Franks. It was his message to give clearly and he doesn't seem to have done that. I suspect that he may not have even done that deliberately. After all, he must know that if he ever gets caught out in something like that, Sue would drop him like a hot brick.
None of that really helps you I suspect, but it may make the decision a little cleaner. You either do or you don't agree to it.
I'm glad the issue of an explanation won't cloud it either, that would have been a shame and would have left the issue of how to resolve any similar issues in future up in the air as well.
For what it is worth, I think you should give in gracefully from a position of strenght. You could say that the issue meant you considered cancelling it all, but that you know that Sue loves you enough that one more day cannot possibly matter. It puts the shot across Frank's bow if he did have any thoughts that way. It shows Sue that you trust her and it leaves you looking the big guy in the meeting. Of course it also gives you what you secretly want too. A one-off extended cucky angst. Very special.
I don't think you need any special rules about who Sue should spend her time with before and after. That smacks of weakness. You should Trust Sue enough to be with you enough both to support you but mostly simply because she wants it that way.
As for the rings, that seems to be an issue in a lot of stories, but should have no bearing in reality. Its a good plot twist but in truth, it doesn't have any significance except in your head, and you seem not to really mind either way. I wouldn't be. Leave it to Sue's good judgement. She could always text ROFF or RON couldn't she!