SoonToBe said:"I guess, in the narrow range of our relationship that's in the bedroom, there may have been a shift in dominance from me to her, but outside the bedroom, if anything it seems the opposite. Weird to observe when you take the time out to see it - but outside the bedroom, I think she's becoming a bit more submissive - there's certainly less conflict/disagreement/differing-opinions about things that I'll say. Whether it's something as simple as what we're doing for dinner - or whether it's something more important, say, about our daughter - she seems to say "you're right" to me much more easily and readily now? I wonder if because she's taking more control in the bedroom, that she's relinquishing it elsewhere? Whatever it is, it's just great to see happening - again, effortlessly between us. Maybe that's the thing that works for us - we seem to accept each others desires without feeling like we have to argue against them, etc. I can't explain it more, but in some ways - it really has changed some of the dynamics of our relationship for the better."
SoonToBe said:So many different opinions - the truth lies somewhere within...
But in all seriousness - there's truth in what everyone is saying and it's becoming easier for me to accept it.
Will is correct in the sense that I do want to see where all of this leads - and yes, I guess, in the narrow range of our relationship that's in the bedroom, there may have been a shift in dominance from me to her, but outside the bedroom, if anything it seems the opposite. Weird to observe when you take the time out to see it - but outside the bedroom, I think she's becoming a bit more submissive - there's certainly less conflict/disagreement/differing-opinions about things that I'll say. Whether it's something as simple as what we're doing for dinner - or whether it's something more important, say, about our daughter - she seems to say "you're right" to me much more easily and readily now? I wonder if because she's taking more control in the bedroom, that she's relinquishing it elsewhere? Whatever it is, it's just great to see happening - again, effortlessly between us. Maybe that's the thing that works for us - we seem to accept each others desires without feeling like we have to argue against them, etc. I can't explain it more, but in some ways - it really has changed some of the dynamics of our relationship for the better. Weird.
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peakmb said:Steve,
I still can't get my head around you being completely submissive here. I would usually associate that with a man who gets what he is given or allowed, but you are getting pretty much exactly what you want. My jury remains out until Sue starts doing something she likes and you don't! I think if you need a label it would just be lucky.