SoonToBe said:Wow, I"m away from here for a few days and wow, you guys jump off the deep end.
First, let me clear up a few things. Sue has, actually both of us, have since talked to Frank about - I guess - the bombshell that you all think he dropped on me last Wednesday night about the wedding.
One, it isn't until the weekend after Easter, and he thinks it's on that Saturday but the invitations haven't come out yet. This all came about because right now, other than Sue or Joanne, he didn't have anyone to go with and didn't want to go stag. I saw Harry's post about Sue somehow going as Frank's fiance or her taking off her rings, etc. So it was one of the things that came up in my conversation with Sue - what was the story of who she is when/if she goes. She looked at me and said plainly "I'm just Franks friend? Is there something more?" Remembering Harry's comments, I said something like okay, just checking, won't that be weird, you being married and such? At first she said why would that even come up? So I brought it up - "what about your rings?".
When I said it, I wasn't sure what I wanted her answer to be. She thought about it for a second or two and then said "hmmm. I might have to take them off, I guess?" and she looked at me and said "are you going to be okay with that?". I actually had the sense to answer her "should I be?". She got all wishy-washy looking and pulled me to her and hugged me deeply and said "you don't ever have to worry". From her answer and how she felt, I don't think I have to worry about anything with her, which is how I originally felt when Frank asked me in the first place.
I spoke to him on the phone earlier today, he was asking me if I could come over tomorrow and give him a hand moving some furniture that he'd had delivered. He'd ordered some furniture to go along with the table he was working on (that he'd borrowed my sander for). I joked with him "should Sue come with me?" and of course his response was "if she wants to, sure....". We were very cordial and friendly - talked about a bunch of stuff both before and after the comment about Sue.
Harry - looking back at your questions. From what I can gather, this is a family-friend of both Frank's and his brothers, so less of Franks family will be there and from how nasty Joanne was, most of Frank's family want nothing to do with her! But it is something that was in that conversation with Sue and was part of her answer that she's "just a friend". I haven't asked about how they'll explain them sharing a room but I'm sure Sue is aware of the potential appearance of impropriety - if anything, she's more concerned about that than I am!
Jax - I suppose it seems she recovered quickly after the Don debacle. I know from talking to her that she felt he was pushing too hard even before the meltdown. But I also KNOW from the heartfelt conversations afterwards that my encouragement and support helped her put things into perspective and help her feel like she could grow from the experience and learn to better control things herself.
Harry - I respect your opinions but in your one post you go from a fun thing she did on Valentines day to that leading to Frank wanting her as his wife? I can't see that jump there - especially when Frank knew she was coming home to me afterwards and that THAT was my Valentines Day present to me. She said he very well knew she was coming home to me afterwards and had even joked in a way that we were taking turns between firsts and seconds with her!.
That said - Jax - you did hit on something that is turning me on and was probably there the moment Frank asked me. There IS a part of me that would be turned on if she were to take her rings off for the wedding. A part of me has always been intensely turned on when she's spent the night with her lover. I've made it no secret here - the idea of her waking up with him and getting ready together is very arousing to me - again, it's her sharing those intimate moments with him - knowing he'll experience what I've had and know. So I'm going to be honest here on this beautiful Sunday afternoon and say that in a way I wish they would check in as husband and wife somehow. I know it's crazy but it's also what I want to feel - that intense jealousy and arousal at her sharing all of that with Frank. Damn if I'm not sitting here with a huge hard-on thinking of them dancing at the wedding and then afterwards, going up to their room together - getting undressed, maybe showering together and then them making love all night long afterwards. Yes, sort of like newlyweds themselves. Her spending the night with a lover she enjoys and wants to be with.
I know it's crazy and risky to put her - them - together in an emotional setting like that, sharing that sort of time together. But then in my mind, I can see the excitement that would be building her in. How horny she'd be by the end of the party. How desperate she'll be to share some of that wedding-night bliss herself. Thing is, I'm cool with Frank sharing that with her - sort of let him see what he probably never had with Joanne. I know, it's risky - but I cannot deny that I am so horny with these thoughts. Still - I don't want to telegraph them to either of them and I need to be careful about that. I want whatever happens to be something that she wants and for her to simply know I'll be here for her.
I will also say that I am now also eagerly anticipating her returning home afterwards and how and what I'll feel for her.
Maybe I'll regret this, just as I said maybe I'd regret other things that I've said okay to. So far, track-record is good and that's also giving me both the confidence and desire to push this a little more - or at least support whatever happens.
Wow, I'm really impressed with this story. You sound like you are really enjoying this. I think its really special and lovely that you can let her do these things and indulge in this way. Her passions really are beautiful.