I've been up for 2 hours already working on a problem at work. Finally had a break to post an update here.
I guess what I am most surprised about for myself - but I guess is completely confirms my desire to be a cuckold - is that for right now, yes, of course I miss having sex with her - but with how things now seem - as I expected them to, and not the angst and tension of last week - that I do want to do this - and I do want to experience this. I want her to only be having sex with him. No other way to say it.
As I lay in bed last night listening to her sleep deepen - I let my mind go and try to imagine how it'll be going for a longer period without having her. Even without seeing CSC's post, I wondered how it's going to feel when I do have her again after Memorial Day. I think it will totally be in my head over the holiday weekend of "does she feel different" and even if she doesn't, I'm sure that in my head she'll feel like she's gaping open
It did feel pretty open the other day but that was also the position she was in at the time too. But also lets be serious - she did give birth to 2 babies through there so despite all of the fantasy, if she wanted to remain snug or later on, to return to being snug if Robert truly reshapes her, we know that it's only a matter of some kegel exercises to bring it back. But yes, it is erotic to think of just that - that Robert may reshape her pussy to accommodate him - what a friggin' intense thought - much less to admit that it might be something I actually desire?
I thought through all sorts of things. Will she really want me? And yes, I certainly thought about the options - and damn if it didn't get me all hard thinking of her maybe asking me to not cum in her this weekend.
I just wish at times I understood why that turns me on to think about....
But I also thought - will she want more time - maybe 2 weeks is all she wants right now. That'd be okay - then I thought maybe that we'd slowly work our way up to more?
When I thought about how it'd be if as I said above, she didn't want me to cum in her - the obvious next thought was just how much he is cumming in her. She says he always cums twice in her, that he says he's always been like that (and something his ex-wife wasn't happy with) - and I thought that by the time I have her the next time, that he'll have cum in her - could be - maybe 10 times.
I know I was driving myself crazy - but at the same time, I was tired so these were like sleepy daydreams more than explicit erotic scenes.
I started to think about her lying out by our pool - just a bikini bottom separating me from her pussy - and yet knowing that it's not mine to enjoy. And that thought led me back to what she'd said last week about how she was often wet the next day still from him - and that led me to think that if not all of it seeps/drips out of her, that the rest is being absorbed by her. Even now typing this - my cock is sticking out of boxers like a flagpole! Oh yes, I also had brief thoughts about the both of us being out on the nude beach and all of this combined together - seeing her lying there, legs spread, maybe with her pussy a bit spread/stretched such that it gaps a little as she is lying there, knowing the wetness I can see isn't from me. I had to laugh at the thought in my head of me having to turn over so my cock wasn't stiff and on-display.
So, like I said, maybe it's the change this week that has eased my angst from last week and weekend. I mean other than us not having sex, the rest of our time together seems unchanged at all. At least so far.
I think maybe some of the issues from last week were with me more than her? I think I keep relapsing away from the clear and obvious truth of the matter - that I want her to do this. I think maybe in my head that I keep thinking that I shouldn't want this - or that I should want to fight to keep on having sex with her while she's with him. But then, when the tension and anxiety clears, I always return to where I am right now - that I do want this and I do want to see how it feels and what it does for her and us. I think maybe it'll always have that perplexing quality to it - that I'm not sure why I want it - and that hopefully over time I'll just learn to accept it and stop questioning it that I want her to.
Obviously I am looking forward to tonight. I think our Wednesday ritual (that sounds nicer than our Wednesday schedule) will probably take on more meaning over time. I feel closest to her when I know we are both openly talking and teasing about all of this. It's just weird to think that my most intense sexual release with her in the future might be me masturbating with her.
For Saraha - yes, I would like to see that. I think it will, but that it will take some time as he isn't pushing her yet for anything more than she's said she's ready to give in terms of time. If the past is any indication of the future, I suspect it won't be till towards end of summer or early fall before she wants to spend the night with him. I don't picture him pushing for that and I know that she just "wants to let things happen as they will".
CSC - you keep talking about rules - I'm not sure what they would be any more than they are already sort of understood and evolving now between us? Can you explain more? I don't think she's ever going to want to formalize it so that "you get to lick me on Mondays, feel me on Wednesdays but leave me alone on Fridays". I still feel confident that I don't need a 'safe word' to signify to her that I am serious if I were to somehow need something she was denying me - she is open to listening and we've agreed that if either of us felt something was serious enough, that the other would take heed. I think I've accepted that I no longer (if I ever did) would be able to say "I don't want you seeing him any more". That may have been a bit of a dream to think of once I was accepting of the situation - if anything, a concern like that should come up long before hitting the breaking point of wanting it to stop completely.
Anyway - my conference-call with work is resuming. Perhaps more later if I do not go into the office.