So - after her rousing blow-job on Sunday morning before we even got out of bed - the rest of the morning was just sort of a blur. It wasn't until yesterday afternoon that we had some time to talk a bit.
She started out by basically asking me if I "was ever going to get used to me fucking Robbie?". I didn't know what she meant exactly so she explained that she wanted to know if I thought I was ever going to essentially grow-out of being so consumed by her and Robert having sex. She asked me if we were ever going to get to a point where it wouldn't be that big a deal and where I wouldn't find myself so aroused that I wouldn't maybe always want to have her or somehow share with her or go down on her after each time she's been with him. In talking about it she said that she liked that it turned me on but that she wanted to know if this was going to be something I'll always want or if, as she'd said, that I might be able to get used to it.
I told her that I wasn't sure - that as of now, especially with her increased frequency with him, that it was on my mind almost all the time. She giggled and said that she could understand that - but then she said "do you think it'll be the same a month from now?". I was kind of struck by what she was asking as I often don't think 4 weeks out into the future - and obviously, I immediately recognized that she was talking about our time coming up to the July 4th week. I was quiet for a bit while I thought about it - long enough that she came to me and hugged me and said "if you still want to share that much, I'll be okay with it" and then she added something to the effect of "but I thought by then maybe you'd be more used to it" and she kissed me.
It seemed weird to talk to her like this but then again, I know that I've posted here at how sometimes, well, there's no other way to say it, but yes, I guess I have, at times, gotten used to her fucking someone else - like Frank or even Don - at times it did seem almost like our normal way of being instead of something that is more special or unique. But truth is, she does fuck him a lot. At times it surprises me too, that she's as eager for it all the time as she says she is - doesn't she get tired of fucking him? I guess not - Lust or whatever - I know from being with her that she's certainly not tired of it yet.
I started to say that I hadn't thought that far off into the distance yet when she moved closer to me and said "it still turns you on that we're not doing it, doesn't it?" - again as if she needed that reassurance right then. I turned to her and said "yes baby, it does - still can't explain it but..." and before I could say more she kissed me and said "it does for me too .... so .... lets enjoy it - right?" or something very close to that. I was honest and told her that I jerk-off a lot thinking about her. She said "that's good, I know you seem happy" and giggled something about "enjoying that this morning". And we both sort of said the same thing at the same time - that for whatever reason - that we both seem to be turned on by it right now. She smiled and kissed me hearing us say something like that almost at the same time. She said she loved me and that for a weird as it sounds, she said she feels closer to me now that we're not doing it as often.
And so she asked me again - whether I was "ever going to get used to me sharing this" and she pointed to her pussy. I think I groaned in initial response and then said that I thought maybe I would - but then threw it back on her that she seems to always have something "new" to share with me. That made us both laugh which sort of broke the ice on the mood.
She said that she hasn't felt so good with another guy since Brad. I'll say that it was sobering to hear her speak so openly - some of my giddiness from the laughing faded as she talked. She said again to me how she feels wanted and it really made me warm all over to hear her say how wonderful that feels. She joked "I know you want me all the time" and then added how incredible it feels to be "wanted by another - younger guy" and "how good it feels to fulfill his desire!". And she then said that "sometimes, I'd like to just enjoy him" and she hesitated and then added "and that I'd rather you waited to have fun with me". I hugged her and said that as long as she was honest and open with me, that I'd accept that as "part of all of this" and added "provided I do get to have fun with you sometimes". She giggled and said "promise!".
She is seeing him tonight. As I may have posted before - she used to put some lingerie together to bring in a bag to his place - but now she rarely does so. She's already said that it rarely stays on her for long and as she knows, turns me on, that she has definitely reached the point where she is both comfortable and also wants to be naked when she's with him. I knew this time was approaching from how she's sounded each time she's come home. And yes, it is a step further up on the intimacy/emotional ladder.
It is weird not knowing or having ever seen Robert and to yet know that Sue is very intimate with him. I liken it to the feelings when other guys will look at her when we're at the nude beach - when I think of her lying on his bed with maybe just a sheet over parts of her - or maybe not - I can't explain it other than to say I'm proud that she's my wife but that's not quite the right word. And yes, she's told me that she also now feels comfortable about lying there - explicitly - after they've had sex - and I know that's yet another step on that ladder - that she'll share her body with him like that.
I don't know if I answered Dana's question about "every day" other than to say again that Robert is very respectful of our marriage and relationship that he won't be the one to push for things that he feels would affect us - which would include them seeing each other every day.